俗話說： 無冤不成夫妻，無仇不成父子？有解藥嗎？？
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我們總是把最壞的脾氣、最糟糕的一面，留給最愛我們的爸爸媽媽。而父母也常常懷疑：自己生養的孩子簡直就像來討債的，為什麼本應溫馨的家庭，變成了每天吵架的戰場？
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一起來看看馬來西亞潘小弟的故事吧。
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【我不再脾氣暴躁，改善了和媽媽的關係】
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我叫潘瑞裕，今年25歲，來自馬來西亞。禪修前，我的脾氣很暴躁，和媽媽的關係很不好，會跟她吵架，有時我甚至會生氣地掀翻桌椅，常常惹得媽媽很傷心。在家裡看到她時，我常常會躲進房間或出去跟朋友喝茶，避開她。
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去年（2016年）7月，我通過菩提禪修的宣傳資料認識了菩提禪修。過後我偶爾會跟著媽媽一起來龍泉禪堂禪修。今年8月，我載媽媽來禪堂上念佛班，順便接受一位師兄的能量加持，過後和師兄聊天，師兄與我分享了他和兒子的關係。接受了能量加持和聊天後，我的脾氣好了一些；第2天，我繼續來禪堂與其他的師兄姐聊天，也是給了我很大的啟發，師兄姐們要我把心打開，並且說了很多鼓勵我的話語；第3天我到了禪堂後，感覺很奇怪為什麼很多人見面時都會說「吉祥如意」，我也開始嘗試跟幾位比較熟悉的師兄姐講「吉祥如意」。就這樣慢慢地我開始把心打開，能感受到周圍人對我的關懷和寬容，我也開始請教他們禪修的方法，並開始修練《大光明》和大禮拜。
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我來禪堂的次數越來越多，在這裡的朋友也越來越多，很多人都願意幫助我。我開始和大家一起做義工，覺得越做越開心。逐漸地，我的脾氣沒有那麼暴躁了，我對媽媽的態度開始改變，而媽媽在禪修後也沒有那麼囉嗦了。媽媽也跟我講「對不起」，我們的關係開始好轉！現在我們可以一起聊天，一起有說有笑了。從那時候開始，我沒有再跟媽媽吵架了。
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接著，我報名參加了於8月底開課的健身班。課程第5天為母親念佛時，想起以前對媽媽的態度，我忍不住邊流淚邊真誠地在佛前向媽媽懺悔。念佛過後，我整個人輕鬆了很多。當時還上臺分享了我的收穫。當天晚上回家後，我跟媽媽當面道歉，並對她和爸爸說：「我愛您！謝謝您！」我和他們擁抱，他們都很開心，也對我講「我愛你」。現在的我越來越開心。
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之前我在禪堂求籤求到的都是中簽，後來再求，求到的都是上上簽了。
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聆聽了金菩提宗師的開示後，讓我感受到自己其實是很幸福的，我學會了感恩、懂得了體諒和禮讓別人，不再跟人家爭東西。以前我要的東西是一定要得到的，不會去理會他人的感受，現在，我會先想這個東西是不是我該得到的。我也懂得了珍惜和關心身邊的人，現在我的脾氣也好多了，我會繼續修練下去！
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前往官網官看更多受益故事：http://putihome.thegmc.com/bbs/viewthread.php?tid=48807&extra=page%3D1
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#見證禪修、#青春、#親子關係、#改脾氣、#改毛病、#孝順
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As the Chinese idiom goes: Foes are usually reincarnated as husband and wife while enemies are usually reborn as father-and-son. Is there a way to break this cycle?
Our dearest parents who love us the most are usually on the receiving end of our worst temper. We always show our worst side to our parents as if they are our debtors, when they are actually benefactors who gave life to us. What is it that makes us argue constantly with our parents? Why do we turn our homes into battlefields everyday?
Let us listen to the story of Brother Pan from Malaysia.
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【I have lost my fiery temper and my relationship with my mother has improved tremendously】
My name is Rui-yu Pan I am a Malaysian and am 25 years old this year. I had a very bad temper before I started practicing meditation. Due to my bad temper, I used to have a terrible relationship with my mother – I was always quarreling with her and sometimes I would even flip the table in anger. This always made my mother very sad. In order not to stay at home with her, I would often make appointments to meet my friends for tea. Even when I am home, I would hide in my room to avoid her.
In July last year (2016), I came across some materials about Bodhi Meditation. I started to accompany my mother to the Klang (Dragon Spring) Bodhi Meditation Center occasionally. In August this year, while sending my mother to the center for her chanting class, I met a dharma brother who performed energy blessings on me. We chatted after the session and he shared with me what happened between him and his son. After the chat and the energy blessings, my temper improved. The next day, I turned up at the center again to chat with the other dharma brothers and sisters. They were very supportive and encouraged me to open up my heart.
On the third day, I noticed that the people at the meditation center greeted each other with “May you be blessed with good fortune”. This form of greeting sounded strange to me, but I still tried it on the few dharma brothers and sisters whom I knew. Gradually, my heart opened up. I was touched by the care and concern that the people here extended to me. I started to seek their guidance about meditation practice and started practicing prostration as well as the Meditation of Greater Illumination regularly.
As I visited the Meditation Center more often, I made many new friends who were all very helpful towards me. I started to volunteer in the center and my happiness level increased. Over time, I noticed that my temper improved. My attitude towards my mother also changed for the better. Meditation has also improved her; she nagged a lot less and even apologized to me once. Since then, our relationship has improved tremendously. Instead of quarreling, we chat and joke with each other freely these days, like good friends.
In August the same year, I signed up for the Health and Happiness retreat. On the fifth day of the retreat, while we were chanting for our mothers, I had a flashback of how I used to treat my mother and I broke down. As tears fell, I knelt before Buddha and repented sincerely for my treatment of my mother. I felt a lot more at ease after the chanting session. I even went onstage to share my story with the class. When I reached home that night, I apologized sincerely to my mother. I hugged my parents and told them: “I love you! Thank you so much everything that you have done for me!” They were very happy to hear that, and told me that they loved me as well. I am becoming a happier person day by day.
In the past, whenever I drew divination lots in the meditation center, I would always get neutral lots. Since my transformation, all the lots that I have drawn are auspicious ones!
Listening to Master’s teachings made me realize my good fortune. I have learned to be grateful for what I have and to be more understanding and forgiving towards others. I no longer fight for things with other people. In the past, I would spare no effort in fighting for what I wanted, without caring about other people’s feelings. Now, I would consider maybe that thing is not what I should have. I have learned to treasure and care for the people around me and my temper has also improved tremendously. I would definitely continue my practice!
For more real-life stories of the benefits gained from meditation practice: http://putihome.thegmc.com/bbs/viewthread.php…
#MeditationJournal, #Youth, #ParentalRelationship, #TemperImprove, #GettingRidOfBadHabits, #FilialPietyrnrn俗話說： 無冤不成夫妻，無仇不成父子？有解藥嗎？？
.
.
我們總是把最壞的脾氣、最糟糕的一面，留給最愛我們的爸爸媽媽。而父母也常常懷疑：自己生養的孩子簡直就像來討債的，為什麼本應溫馨的家庭，變成了每天吵架的戰場？
.
一起來看看馬來西亞潘小弟的故事吧。
——————————————————————————
【我不再脾氣暴躁，改善了和媽媽的關係】
.
我叫潘瑞裕，今年25歲，來自馬來西亞。禪修前，我的脾氣很暴躁，和媽媽的關係很不好，會跟她吵架，有時我甚至會生氣地掀翻桌椅，常常惹得媽媽很傷心。在家裡看到她時，我常常會躲進房間或出去跟朋友喝茶，避開她。
.
去年（2016年）7月，我通過菩提禪修的宣傳資料認識了菩提禪修。過後我偶爾會跟著媽媽一起來龍泉禪堂禪修。今年8月，我載媽媽來禪堂上念佛班，順便接受一位師兄的能量加持，過後和師兄聊天，師兄與我分享了他和兒子的關係。接受了能量加持和聊天後，我的脾氣好了一些；第2天，我繼續來禪堂與其他的師兄姐聊天，也是給了我很大的啟發，師兄姐們要我把心打開，並且說了很多鼓勵我的話語；第3天我到了禪堂後，感覺很奇怪為什麼很多人見面時都會說「吉祥如意」，我也開始嘗試跟幾位比較熟悉的師兄姐講「吉祥如意」。就這樣慢慢地我開始把心打開，能感受到周圍人對我的關懷和寬容，我也開始請教他們禪修的方法，並開始修練《大光明》和大禮拜。
.
我來禪堂的次數越來越多，在這裡的朋友也越來越多，很多人都願意幫助我。我開始和大家一起做義工，覺得越做越開心。逐漸地，我的脾氣沒有那麼暴躁了，我對媽媽的態度開始改變，而媽媽在禪修後也沒有那麼囉嗦了。媽媽也跟我講「對不起」，我們的關係開始好轉！現在我們可以一起聊天，一起有說有笑了。從那時候開始，我沒有再跟媽媽吵架了。
.
接著，我報名參加了於8月底開課的健身班。課程第5天為母親念佛時，想起以前對媽媽的態度，我忍不住邊流淚邊真誠地在佛前向媽媽懺悔。念佛過後，我整個人輕鬆了很多。當時還上臺分享了我的收穫。當天晚上回家後，我跟媽媽當面道歉，並對她和爸爸說：「我愛您！謝謝您！」我和他們擁抱，他們都很開心，也對我講「我愛你」。現在的我越來越開心。
.
之前我在禪堂求籤求到的都是中簽，後來再求，求到的都是上上簽了。
.
聆聽了金菩提宗師的開示後，讓我感受到自己其實是很幸福的，我學會了感恩、懂得了體諒和禮讓別人，不再跟人家爭東西。以前我要的東西是一定要得到的，不會去理會他人的感受，現在，我會先想這個東西是不是我該得到的。我也懂得了珍惜和關心身邊的人，現在我的脾氣也好多了，我會繼續修練下去！
.
.
前往官網官看更多受益故事：http://putihome.thegmc.com/bbs/viewthread.php?tid=48807&extra=page%3D1
.
#見證禪修、#青春、#親子關係、#改脾氣、#改毛病、#孝順
.
.
As the Chinese idiom goes: Foes are usually reincarnated as husband and wife while enemies are usually reborn as father-and-son. Is there a way to break this cycle?
Our dearest parents who love us the most are usually on the receiving end of our worst temper. We always show our worst side to our parents as if they are our debtors, when they are actually benefactors who gave life to us. What is it that makes us argue constantly with our parents? Why do we turn our homes into battlefields everyday?
Let us listen to the story of Brother Pan from Malaysia.
———————————————————————–
【I have lost my fiery temper and my relationship with my mother has improved tremendously】
My name is Rui-yu Pan I am a Malaysian and am 25 years old this year. I had a very bad temper before I started practicing meditation. Due to my bad temper, I used to have a terrible relationship with my mother – I was always quarreling with her and sometimes I would even flip the table in anger. This always made my mother very sad. In order not to stay at home with her, I would often make appointments to meet my friends for tea. Even when I am home, I would hide in my room to avoid her.
In July last year (2016), I came across some materials about Bodhi Meditation. I started to accompany my mother to the Klang (Dragon Spring) Bodhi Meditation Center occasionally. In August this year, while sending my mother to the center for her chanting class, I met a dharma brother who performed energy blessings on me. We chatted after the session and he shared with me what happened between him and his son. After the chat and the energy blessings, my temper improved. The next day, I turned up at the center again to chat with the other dharma brothers and sisters. They were very supportive and encouraged me to open up my heart.
On the third day, I noticed that the people at the meditation center greeted each other with “May you be blessed with good fortune”. This form of greeting sounded strange to me, but I still tried it on the few dharma brothers and sisters whom I knew. Gradually, my heart opened up. I was touched by the care and concern that the people here extended to me. I started to seek their guidance about meditation practice and started practicing prostration as well as the Meditation of Greater Illumination regularly.
As I visited the Meditation Center more often, I made many new friends who were all very helpful towards me. I started to volunteer in the center and my happiness level increased. Over time, I noticed that my temper improved. My attitude towards my mother also changed for the better. Meditation has also improved her; she nagged a lot less and even apologized to me once. Since then, our relationship has improved tremendously. Instead of quarreling, we chat and joke with each other freely these days, like good friends.
In August the same year, I signed up for the Health and Happiness retreat. On the fifth day of the retreat, while we were chanting for our mothers, I had a flashback of how I used to treat my mother and I broke down. As tears fell, I knelt before Buddha and repented sincerely for my treatment of my mother. I felt a lot more at ease after the chanting session. I even went onstage to share my story with the class. When I reached home that night, I apologized sincerely to my mother. I hugged my parents and told them: “I love you! Thank you so much everything that you have done for me!” They were very happy to hear that, and told me that they loved me as well. I am becoming a happier person day by day.
In the past, whenever I drew divination lots in the meditation center, I would always get neutral lots. Since my transformation, all the lots that I have drawn are auspicious ones!
Listening to Master’s teachings made me realize my good fortune. I have learned to be grateful for what I have and to be more understanding and forgiving towards others. I no longer fight for things with other people. In the past, I would spare no effort in fighting for what I wanted, without caring about other people’s feelings. Now, I would consider maybe that thing is not what I should have. I have learned to treasure and care for the people around me and my temper has also improved tremendously. I would definitely continue my practice!
For more real-life stories of the benefits gained from meditation practice: http://putihome.thegmc.com/bbs/viewthread.php…
#MeditationJournal, #Youth, #ParentalRelationship, #TemperImprove, #GettingRidOfBadHabits, #FilialPiety
