月份: 2018 年 4 月

孩子的未來在於你
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天地間，最無私的莫過於父母對兒女的愛了，父母在兒女身上傾注的心血，世上沒有任何工具能夠衡量。而怎樣培養孩子，使孩子們健康快樂地成長，能夠立足於社會，並且對社會有所貢獻？是所有身為父母者最關心的話題，今天，我來分享這個來自_新加坡的真實故事，給大家參考。
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【兒子不再躲著我們了】
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我有兩個兒子，近年來因為工作繁忙，使我很少有時間陪伴他們，各種家庭瑣事也讓我變得非常急躁，經常會將情緒發洩在孩子身上；而先生對孩子的教育則非常嚴格，孩子們都非常害怕我們。
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記得有一次，先生很晚才回到家，小兒子聽到開門聲，竟馬上從客廳衝回房間蓋著被子裝睡。孩子與我們之間的距離感，讓我和丈夫感到頭痛，為了教育好孩子，我和先生上了很多親子類的課程，但是似乎都沒有效果，兒子的學業依舊非常差，兩兄弟還經常打架、爭搶東西，氣得我跟丈夫不該該如何是好。
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很幸運的是，在一次的機緣中，我和丈夫聽到「金菩提宗師」講授的一堂課《孩子的未來在於你》，我們深受觸動，決定改變對待孩子的方式。我們開始注意和孩子們講話時的方式，多說關愛和鼓勵的語言，不再責罵他們，並且對我們過去錯誤的教育方式向孩子們道歉，當著他們的面將藤條扔掉。孩子們非常開心，高興地抱著我親吻我的臉。那一刻，我的內心充滿了溫暖和感動。
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過程中，我和丈夫用珍惜的態度去陪伴孩子，學會站在孩子的立場看事情，也不再去在意考試分數是多少了，只要孩子們能快樂成長就好。想不到，每星期我們僅花了20分鐘的時間輔導小兒子，他就能拿到6分或7分(滿分10分)，有一次還拿了滿分。現在我和先生回到家，孩子們也不再像過去一樣躲起來了，而是開心地跑過來迎接，並擁抱我們，家庭的氛圍變得溫暖而溫馨。
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感恩金菩提宗師的智慧，使我們夫妻學會了慈悲的引導，為我們的家帶來了溫馨、和數不盡的歡樂，看著孩子們健康快樂地成長著，我們覺得好幸福！
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（註：禪修的效果會因人而異）
＊菩提禪修不提倡自行停藥、減藥，請遵循醫囑
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#親子教育、#頌津、#頌翰、#慈悲的引導、#快樂成長、#孩子的未來在於你rnrnYour child’s future lies in your hands

A parent’s love for their children is selfless and pure. The amount of effort and devotion a parent spends on the child is immeasurable. How can we nurture our children so that they can grow up healthily and happily? What can we as parents do so that our children will grow up to be productive members of the society and make positive contributions in future? This is a topic that all parents are most concerned about. Today, I will share a real life story of a family from Singapore for your reference.

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【Our son no longer hides from us】

I have two sons. In recent years, due to my busy work schedule, I spent very little time with them. Additionally, doing all sorts of household chores regularly has made me very impatient and anxious and I often vent my frustrations on my children. My husband is especially strict with their studies as well. As a result, our children are very afraid of us.

There was once where my husband returned home late from work. Upon hearing the sound of the door opening, my younger son ran from the living room into the bedroom immediately and used his blanket to cover his body, pretending that he had fallen asleep. At that moment, I felt very alienated from my children. This distance between parent and child gave my husband and I a headache and we were at a loss of what to do.

My husband and I registered for many parenting workshops to learn techniques to help us better bring up our children. However, they were not effective and did little to bridge the distance between us and our children. Our sons continued to score poorly in their exams and often fought with each other, snatching things violently. My husband and I were perplexed over their behavior.

Fortunately, a chance encounter allowed us to hear a lesson taught by Grandmaster JinBodhi titled “Your child’s future lies in your hands”. We were deeply touched by his sharing and decided to change the way we treat our children. We began to pay attention to the manner in which we communicated with our children and used more caring and encouraging words with them. Gradually, we stopped using negative language such as blaming and sincerely apologized for our erroneous behavior in the past. In addition, in front of their faces, we threw away the cane that we used to punish them with. When they saw this, our children were so delighted that they hugged and kissed me. At that moment, my heart was filled with warmth and happiness.

During this period, my husband and I adopted an attitude where we deeply cherished our time spent with our children. We learnt to see things from our children’s perspective and were not bothered by their test results. What mattered most to us was whether they grew up happily and contented.

Even though we spent only 20 minutes coaching our younger son in his studies, he would score 6 or 7 points out of 10, a huge improvement compared to his past results. Once, he even scored full marks!

We also noticed positive changes in our children’s behavior towards us. They no longer hide when we returned home but would rush towards us and happily embraced us. The atmosphere in the family has became more loving and warm.

My husband and I are extremely grateful to Master Jin Bodhi and his wise teachings. By emphasizing on using compassion to bring up our children, our family has become closer, happier and more loving towards each other. Watching our children grow up happily and healthily is our greatest joy and blessing!

(Note: The effect of meditation varies from person to person.)
* Bodhi meditation does not advocate the stopping of medication. Please follow your doctor’s medical advise.

#ParentChildEducation, #Songjin, #Songhan, #HappyGrowth, #YourChildFutureLiesInYourHands

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