貧時要吃飽；
富時要吃好；
貴時要吃少。
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#生活智慧、#禪語、#越活越好rnrnEat to fill our stomach when we are poor;
Eat nutritiously when we are rich;
Eat less when price of food has gone up.
#TheWisdomOfLife, #Aphorism, #LiveBetterInLife
貧時要吃飽； 富時要吃好； 貴時要吃少。…
超實用的婆媳相處之道！ . . 一個女同…
超實用的婆媳相處之道！
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一個女同修愁眉苦臉地來找我訴苦：「師父，我兒子去年結婚了，原本以為可以多一個人照顧我兒子，但誰知道，我媳婦非常懶，除了上班日外，她都睡到中午才醒，也不會幫忙做飯、做家事，家事幾乎都要我兒子做！我不過說了她幾句，她就擺臭臉給我看！更令我生氣的是，兒子不但沒幫我，還護著媳婦，一起責怪我是惡婆婆！真是太讓我傷心了！」
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我問她：「妳有女兒嗎？」她說：「我有兩個女兒。」我再問：「她們假日都睡到幾點啊？」她說：「她們平時上班辛苦，所以我都會讓她們多睡一下，等我煮好中餐才會叫她們起床。」我繼續問：「那妳女兒平常會幫忙做家事嗎？」她說：「偶爾吧！但她們不想做的時候我也不會勉強。」
我說：「妳看看，妳女兒能做的事情，換成媳婦做了就是罪大惡極，這樣看來妳也沒有把媳婦當成女兒嘛！又怎麼能期待她把妳當成自己的媽媽呢？」
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她說：「我這不是心疼兒子嗎？平時上班已經夠累的了，假日還不能好好休息，真是太可憐了！」
我說：「妳兒子上班累，媳婦上班難道不累嗎？媳婦也是別人家的寶貝女兒呀！妳心疼妳的孩子，難道她爸媽就不心疼她嗎？」
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這個女同修當場就不說話了，我告訴她：「妳不要老覺得媳婦把兒子給搶走了，而是多一個人來愛他。另外，妳可以回想一下當初結婚的時候的心情，就能理解媳婦的想法了。如果妳可以站在她的立場替她想想，多體諒她，少一點責備、多一點鼓勵，我相信妳們婆媳之間的關係，一定可以改善的。」
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隔了半年多，我又見到了這位女同修，這次她和一個年輕女人一起來見我。我說：「妳女兒真孝順，還會陪妳來禪堂。」她笑笑說：「師父，這不是我女兒，這是我媳婦呀！」我說：「這樣看來，妳們婆媳感情還挺好的。」
她說：「這都要歸功於師父的教誨，上次我聽了您的話，回家之後想了很久，決定要修正自己的態度，不要總用批判的角度看媳婦，要多欣賞她的優點。當我把想法修正之後，媳婦的態度也慢慢改變，她不再視我為敵人！而且當我改正對媳婦態度的同時，我發現兒子對我也越來越孝順，不再總是為了媳婦跟我大小聲了！」
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人跟人之間的緣分其實是很奇妙的，今天兩個女人有緣成了婆媳，這代表的不是兩個女人的戰爭，而是這兩個女人都愛著同一個男人，只是立場不同罷了。有緣成了一家人， 就要懂得珍惜這份緣，讓這份善緣持續下去！
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最後祝大家：和家人的關係都能和樂、美滿、幸福！
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#婆媳、#家務、#將心比心、#體諒、#婆媳相處之道rnrnThe super practical way of getting along between mother and daughter-in-laws
Recently, one of our Bodhi Meditation members came to me full of worries and complained to me: “ Master, when my son got married last year, I thought there would be an extra person to take care of my son. To my disappointment, my daughter-in-law turned out to be very lazy. Other than the normal working days, she would sleep till almost noon and seldom help in household chores, leaving most of it to my son. When I made some comments on her attitude, she would show me her angry face! What is more annoying is that my son not only did not help me to correct her, he even blamed me for being harsh and being a bad mother-in-law. I’m so sad!”
I asked her: “Do you have daughters?”
She replied: “ Yes, I have two daughters.”
I continued: “What time do your daughters wake up on weekends?”.
She replied: “As they work hard during the week, I would usually let them sleep a little longer and wake them up when lunch is ready.”
I continued, again: “So, do your daughters help out in household chores?”
She responded:” Occasionally. But I seldom impose upon them if they are unwilling.”
I added after her response: “Well you should take a second look. What your daughters are doing, you blame your daughter-in-law for the same behavior. It seems like you are not treating your daughter-in-law as your own daughter, so how do you expect her to treat you as her mother?”
She replied: “I’m just feeling pity for my son. He is already so tired after work, and can’t even have a good rest at home over the weekend because he has to do what my daughter-in-law is supposed to do!”
I replied: “I think your daughter-in-law is equally tired after work like your son. Don’t you think her parents may pity her, too?”
She was immediately silent, and I said: “You may want to reverse your thinking that your daughter-in-law snatched your son away. Instead, you may want to see it as your son found another woman to love him. If you recall the time when you got married, you may better sympathize your daughter-in-law’s feelings. If you can put yourself in her shoes and show more understanding and love, I’m sure you’ll get along well with her.”
Half a year later, I chanced to meet with the same female member, this time with a young lady. I greeted her: “You have a filial daughter to accompany you to Bodhi Meditation Center.”
She smiled and greeted: “Master, she is not my daughter. She is my daughter-in-law.”
I praised her: “Looks like you have improved your relationship with her.”
She thanked me saying: “Master, it was because of you who reminded me to change my attitude. Instead of always judging my daughter-in-law, I began to appreciate her strength and forte. When I changed my attitude towards her, she also responded with a positive change, and both of us stopped seeing each other as adversaries. When my son felt this change, he became more filial to me and seldom do we exchange nasty comments like in the past.”
It is always interesting when it comes to inter-personal relationship. When two women become in-laws, it is more of both loving the same man instead of being at war. It is just looking at different perspectives. We should always learn how to treasure the good fortune of being together as a family and letting it flourish.
Finally, I wish everyone enjoys harmonious, happy and blissful relationships with their families.
#InLaws, #Housework, #PutOneselfInOther’sShoes, #Empathize
「縫」出來的溫暖小家 . 父母給子女的愛…
「縫」出來的溫暖小家
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父母給子女的愛，是幫他們打造出一個溫暖舒適的家！這一點不管是用在動物或者人身上都適用。今天我們就來看看這種特別的鳥類「縫葉鶯」，是如何利用纖維、蜘蛛絲做縫線，將一片一片的葉子「縫」起來，變成屬於牠們的溫馨小家。這樣的景象，像不像我們的父母，傾盡所有也要保護孩子的樣子呢？
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#縫葉鶯、#家、#父母的愛、#自然
視頻來源：https://youtu.be/0IaFXu2RiNE
【菩提養生素食廚房】──圓滿小丸子 . …
【菩提養生素食廚房】──圓滿小丸子
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前幾天在facebook直播中我做了「台中小丸子」之後，不少網友都給我發訊息說，他們也做小丸子了。 也學著一邊做，一邊用意念將吉祥的祝福、對親人的愛融入食物中做給家人吃，希望親人們智慧圓滿、健康吉祥、青春靚麗。這兩天就有位網友給我發來了他所做的視頻，我也給朋友們分享一下。
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食材：米飯兩碗、黑芝麻（炒熟）少許、白芝麻（炒熟）少許、一碗溫水備用。
作法：
1.盤子上撒上黑芝麻、或者白芝麻。
2.用手將米飯團成圓的。做之前，手上適當的沾上一點水，防止米飯沾手。
3.在大一點的盆裡撒上芝麻，將搓好的小丸子放入盆中，均勻的轉動讓芝麻均勻的粘在丸子上。
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小叮嚀：做小丸子時，還可以按照自己的喜好，添一些調料、佐料類；或把一些海苔、堅果、新鮮蔬菜包進去，又健康、又促進消化、又美容。
傷心熊大 . 賣了半天萌、浪費了半天感情…
傷心熊大
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賣了半天萌、浪費了半天感情，容易嗎？傷心到懷疑「熊」生了！哈哈。
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#趣味
視頻來源：https://www.facebook.com/boss730626/videos/1962543094059404/
婚後怎麼相處，才能幸福美滿？ . 有一次…
婚後怎麼相處，才能幸福美滿？
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有一次，一個結婚才兩年的的年輕同修跑來找我抱怨：「師父，我真的受不了我太太了，我想要離婚！」
我說：「你不是才結婚沒多久嗎？怎麼這麼快就鬧起離婚來了？」.
他說：「我太太太懶散了！家裡亂也不好好收拾，我說她幾句，她就生氣！連飯都不煮了，而且還說她上班很累，回家後只想休息，您說，有這樣懶惰的太太嗎？」
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我問：「你們家裡的家事都是誰做的？」
他說：「大部分的事情是她做。」我說：「既然是這樣的話，我想你們還是離婚好了。」
他有些生氣地問我：「為什麼呀？您不是應該勸合不勸離的嗎？」
我說：「奇怪了，這家是你們兩個人的，你們夫妻兩個都要工作，可家事卻大部分都是她在做，我問你呀，既然你這麼愛乾淨，怎麼不自己做呢？」
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他說：「我不是不願意做家事，就是工作太累了。」
我問他：「你工作會累，她工作不會累呀？光埋怨太太家裡就會變整齊了嗎？你不幫忙也就算了，她累了想休息還得被你抱怨懶惰，我覺得她嫁給你實在太可憐，趁你們兩個都還年輕，又沒孩子，要離婚就趕緊離，別再耽誤人家了！反正她沒結婚家事都是照做，說不定跟你離婚之後耳根子還能清靜一些呢！」
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隔了幾個月，我又看到這個同修，我就問他：「最近過得怎麼樣？還鬧離婚嗎？」
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他聽完，有些慚愧地說：「師父，您別笑話我了，當然沒有離婚！那天跟您聊過，回去之後我就反省了一下，我發現您說得很有道理，我太太其實沒有做錯什麼，是我太不體諒她了。明明她上班也很累，但我卻只想到自己，難怪她會生氣！後來，我就開始主動把她沒做完的家事都做完，神奇的是，我太太沒有因為我搶著做事就變得更懶，反而會跟我一起做家事，所以現在我們的感情比以前更好了，也沒再鬧過離婚了！」
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#夫妻關係、#家務分配、#互相體諒rnrnThe secret to a happy marriage
There was once a young practitioner who came complaining to me just after two years of marriage: “Master, I cannot tolerate my wife any longer. I am thinking of getting a divorce!” I asked him: “Why? You have just gotten married not too long ago.” He replied: “My wife is so lazy! She is not doing a proper job in keeping our house clean. Our house is so messy. She got angry when I just tell her off lightly. In fact, she stop cooking entirely and told me she is very tired from working and only wants to rest after work. Master, have you seen such a lazy woman before?”
I asked: “Who does all the housework?”
He replied: “She does most of them.” I continued: “If that is the case, then I think it is better for you to get a divorce.”
Upon hearing what I had said, he appeared upset and asked: “Why? Aren’t you supposed to mediate and dissuade me from separation?” I told him: “Strange, the house belongs to the two of you and though both of you are working, she still does most of the housework. Since you are so particular about cleanliness, why do you not clean the house?”
He replied: “It is not that I am unwilling to do housework, I am simply too tired after working.”
I asked him: “If you feel tired from working, don’t you think your wife also feel the same? Your house will not become neat and tidy just by grumbling about her. Since both of you are still young and childless, you may as well get a divorce fast. Don’t waste her youth and time! Anyway she is currently doing the household chores. At least after divorce, she can experience peace without you constantly nagging by her side!”
When I saw the practitioner again a few months later, I asked him: “How are you recently? Still thinking of getting a divorce?”
When he heard what I said, he looked at me sheepishly and replied: “Master, please do not make fun of me. I did not get a divorce! After I talked to you the other day, I did some self-reflection. What you said made sense. My wife did not do anything wrong. I am not understanding enough towards her. Though she is also tired from work, she still does the housework. I am so selfish. No wonder she is angry! After talking to you, I started to help her with some of the housework. Amazingly, my wife did not turn lazier, but help to do the housework together. In fact our relationship is much better than before and we are not contemplating a divorce!”
#MaritalRelationship, #SegregationOfHousework, #UnderstandingEachOther
爸爸的小情人 . 爸爸不要玩手機了！看我…
爸爸的小情人
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爸爸不要玩手機了！看我看我！
都說女兒是爸爸前世的情人，來看看這位萌萌噠小情人是如何「打斷」爸爸和手機之間的「深情凝視」。吧！
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#有趣、#親子
視頻來源：https://youtu.be/Sm4jCd8Ox9U
樂高向塑膠說再見！ . 真的是太棒了！現…
樂高向塑膠說再見！
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真的是太棒了！現在連國際玩具大廠『樂高』也開始研發環保材質製作的玩具！
大家都玩過樂高積木。這些五彩繽紛、充滿無限想像的塑膠小方塊，相信是許多人難忘的小時回憶，它不僅能在遊戲中刺激思考、創造、建構能力，對人格養成也有一定的影響力。
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但縱使樂高再討喜，也不得不面對減塑的環保議題了！樂高公司宣佈將成立永續材料研究中心，花費超過一億五千萬美金，宣告將在2030年前，以永續性的材料替代現有的塑膠原料。
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最早的樂高積木其實是木製的，目前樂高公司平均每年要使用超過六千噸的塑膠材料！隨著時代演變，他們選擇主動面對環保問題，成立永續材料研究中心，預計要聘雇100位材料專家全力投入研發新材料。
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但什麼是永續性的材料？樂高的標準是：「在關鍵性的環境與社會影響面，如石化原料的使用、人權保障和氣候變遷議題上，新產品的碳足跡必須比現有材料明顯減少。」
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新材料會回歸到木材嗎？我們無從得知，一家日本公司曾開發了全木製的積木，也有人試著用木屑、咖啡渣來製造積木。雖然這些材料暫時還無法大量應用，但環保減塑這方向一定是對的，地球只有一個，愛護它是每個地球人應有的責任！
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感謝網友提供素材:
http://www.greenpeace.org/taiwan/zh/news/stories/climate_energy/climate/2014/lego-promise/
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LEGO Bids Farewell to Plastics
It is wonderful news that even international toy maker LEGO is starting to study the use of eco-friendly materials in the manufacturing of toys!
Almost everyone has played with LEGO building blocks. These colorful building blocks help trigger unlimited imagination as to how you can play with them, something most people will recall from their childhood days. The LEGO blocks not only stimulate thinking, innovation and constructive abilities, it can also help shape one’s character.
No matter how delightful it is to play with plastic building blocks, LEGO has to face the challenge of being eco-friendly. To do this, LEGO has announced that it is setting up a US$150 million Sustainable Materials Centre by 2030 to replace all current plastics with sustainable materials.
The earliest versions of LEGO building blocks were made from wood. Today, LEGO uses more than 6,000 tonnes of plastics annually. With global warming, they chose to be pro-actively eco-friendly and plan to employ more than 100 material experts to form the center for sustainable material.
But what is sustainable material? LEGO’s standard is: Any thing that may significantly affect the environment and society such as reducing the use of petroleum-chemicals, violations of human rights and adverse impacts on global warming, and the carbon-footprints of new LEGO’s products.
Will the new products return to the use of wood? We are not sure. A Japanese company was known to have used wood to produce building blocks, whilst others use sawdust and coffee beans pulp. Although such use of materials cannot be on a massive scale, the use of alternative material to be eco-friendly is a step in the right direction. We only have one Earth and it is everyone’s responsibility to protect and save the Earth.
Thanks to netizen for providing the references:-
English reference: https://www.greenpeace.org/archive-international/en/news/Blogs/makingwaves/save-the-arctic-lego-dumps-shell/blog/50926/
Chinese Reference: http://www.greenpeace.org/…/clim…/climate/2014/lego-promise/
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#NewAndCurrentAffairs, #EcoFriendly, #SustainableMaterial, #LoveTheWorld, #LoveAllBeings
懸空寺 . 懸空寺，位於中國山西省大同市…
懸空寺
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懸空寺，位於中國山西省大同市渾源縣，是一座儒釋道三教合一的寺廟。整座寺廟建於翠峰山的半山腰上，依靠27根木梁支撐全部寺廟主要建築，遠看似一幅秀麗的浮雕鑲嵌在萬仞峭壁間，故名「懸空寺」。其巍峨奇特、驚險壯觀，不愧為中國古代建築之精華。
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始建於北魏年間，懸空寺距地面高約60米，最高處的三教殿離地面90米，因歷年河床淤積，現僅剩58米。整座寺廟共有40間房屋，為木質框架式結構，主體建築之間由走廊和棧道相連。建築結構以半插橫樑為基、巧借岩石暗托；樑柱上下一體、廊欄左右緊聯。
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懸空寺，上載危崖、下臨深谷、背岩依龕、淩空而構，令人歎為觀止！
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#懸空寺、#山西
參考文獻：https://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E6%82%AC%E7%A9%BA%E5%AF%BA
孩子青春期的叛逆如何面對？ . 是甚麼東…
孩子青春期的叛逆如何面對？
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是甚麼東西在責罵中，包含著愛；嘮叨裡，透露著關心；沉默時，兜著牽掛；眉宇間，總盼兒平安，這就是「母愛」…
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週末就是母親節了，記得要常抽空回家探望父親、母親，就算是一通電話，一聲問候，都是給父母親最珍貴的禮物。
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因為愛，不在嘴上，不在物質和名相上，而是在心裡。。。
祝福天下的父親、母親：身體健康，吉祥如意！同時祝福大家，闔家幸福、美滿。
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我來自於馬來西亞_名字叫葉嘉俊，法名:來孝。
過去，我特別叛逆，和父母的關係很糟糕，和他們談不到3句就要吵起來。吵架時我根本無法控制自己的情緒，對著父母罵髒話、拍桌子、甚至有想打父母的衝動。其實，我知道父母很愛我，只是隨著自己慢慢長大，我對他們嚴格的管教越來越反感。
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國中二年級時，我交了一個女朋友，一天放學後我因為陪女朋友比較晚回家，母親因為擔心就播了通電話給我，問我在哪裡，我莫名的一股氣衝上來，就在電話中和母親大吵起來。回到家，母親問我電話中怎麼回事，我還理直氣壯的說：「正常打電話而已，沒什麼啊！」爸爸氣急了，打了我一巴掌。從那以後，我和父母的冷戰就開始了。我不和他們一起吃飯，不說話，我們知謙隔了後後的冰層。
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2016年7月我大學畢業了，找了3個月的工作都沒找到，心情很沮喪的時候，母親要我一起去參加「念佛班」，我敷衍的答應了。開始我完全不理會人，也不和人說話，他們要我做什麼我就做什麼，到了第四天，在為父母念佛的時候，過去和父母吵架的畫面，像演電影似的一幕幕湧進腦海，我開始為自己過往對父母親不敬的行為感到愧疚不已，眼淚控制不住地往下流。
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懺悔之後，我的心中感到前所未有的輕鬆。當聽到金菩提宗師講到：「身為子女，要做好子女的本份，要孝順，不要做傷害父母的事情、說傷害父母的話。」我決定不再傷父母親的心了。從那天之後，我改變了對父母的態度，開始懂得感恩父母、學著理解，並且關心他們。
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現在，面對父母的關心和照顧，我會開心地接受，還會和父母一起坐著看電視、聊天，家中的氣氛變得很溫馨，真的好享受這種感覺！
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感謝媽媽當初遞給我的那張報名表，那是我成長過程中收到的，最寶貴的禮物。讓我變得正向陽光、內心柔軟，並且懂得感恩！今年年初，我又一次突破了自己，給爸爸媽媽傳了簡訊，對他們說：「爸爸媽媽我愛你們！」
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#積極、#正向陽光、#葉嘉俊、#叛逆期、#青春熱血、#親情、#感恩rnrnHow do we manage our children’s rebellious adolescent years?
What is it –
in the scolding that exudes love;
in the nagging that reveals care;
in the silence that reflects concern;
between the cease of the forehead that always long for the safety and peace of the children? It is “motherly love”..
This weekend is Mother’s Day. We must remember to find time to return home often to visit our fathers and mothers. Even if it is a phone call, or a simple greeting, these are the most precious gifts for our parents.
This is because love is not merely expressed in speech, in material gifts or gestures in names or appearances, but from the heart… May all the fathers and mothers in the world be blessed with good health, auspiciousness and fulfilling lives! Similarly, may everyone be blessed with familial bliss.
I am Jiajun Ye, from Malaysia. My Dharma name is Laixiao. In the past, I was particularly rebellious and had a poor relationship with my parents. We would quarrel after speaking no more than 3 sentences. I couldn’t control my emotions at all during the arguments, and would be rude to my parents, slam the desk, and even harbor the urge to hit them. In reality, I know that my parents love me, but as I grew up, I became more and more frustrated by their strict discipline.
In the second year of middle school, I befriended a girl. One day after school, I was late for home as I accompanied my girlfriend. My mother was concerned and called to ask my whereabouts. At that moment, an inexplicable anger in me exploded and I had a big quarrel with her on the phone. Back home, my mother asked me what happened. I was unrepentant, saying, “(it was) only a normal conversation, nothing to be concerned about!” Dad was most flustered, and gave me a slap. Since then, cold war began between my parents and I. Daily activities with them such as during mealtimes were in silence, as there was now a “thick layer of ice” between us.
In July 2016, I graduated from university, but struggled for 3 months without finding work. At my most depressed state, my mother asked me to attend a “chanting class”. I agreed only half-heartedly. At the beginning, I totally ignored the class and was not engaged, only doing as I was told. On the fourth day, when the class chanted for our parents, past scenes of the quarrels with my parents flash-backed before me like a movie reel in action. I began to feel ashamed of my disrespectful behavior toward my parents, and tears streamed uncontrollably.
After the repentant chanting, my heart felt a sense of calm that I had never experienced. When I heard Master Jin Bodhi’s advice that, “as children, we should fulfill our obligations, be filial, and do not do hurtful things to our parents”, I resolved never to hurt my parents anymore. From that day on, I changed my attitude towards my parents. I began to be thankful, and learned to understand and care for them.
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Now, I happily embrace the care and concern of my parents, accompany them in enjoying TV shows, and have chats with them. It is now a warm atmosphere at home, and most delightful!
I’m most thankful to my mother who had handed me the application form for the class. It is the most precious gift in my growing up years. It inspired me toward the illuminated path, develop an amiable heart and appreciate gratitude! At the beginning of this year, I achieved another breakthrough, as I sent a message to mum and dad expressing, “Mom and Dad, I love you!
#Proactive, #TowardIlluminatedPath, #JiajunYe, #RebelliousStage, #HotBloodedTeenager, #FamilialAffection, #Gratitude