獲得幸福生活的靈丹妙藥！！（２０１７年７月２２日）
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想要擁有幸福甜蜜的婚姻，應該如何做？
我先說個故事給大家思考一下……
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有一對小夫妻一起來找我。太太說：「我要跟他離婚。」我問：「離婚怎麼跑我這兒來了？你們結婚證書也不是我發的。」這時，先生說：「她真要離，我也沒有辦法。到您這來問問您怎麼看？」其實，他們想離，但是心裡還是有點戀戀不捨，想找我給評評理。
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太太說：「他經常不洗澡、不刷牙，特別髒。我一天刷四五遍牙呢。」
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我說：「你每天閒著不工作，光刷牙？」
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先生說：「其實我也不想離，我也想包容她。有一次她做好了飯，問我好不好吃。我說還可以，但是下次能不能放鹽進去啊（原來菜裡沒放鹽）。第二天我下班回家，太太就煮了一碗麵自己在那吃。我問：『我的飯呢？』她說：『你不是嫌我做得不好吃嗎？』 太太從此不給我做飯吃，這一僵持就是一個月，之後矛盾就更加激化起來了。」
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我是覺得，第一、這個女弟子太挑剔了；第二、她太在乎自己了。請問：這樣的夫妻，能成為一對好夫妻嗎？做不成的，因為太在乎自己了，太我執了。遇上這樣的老婆或丈夫，生活一定是痛苦的。
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其實是很小的事情，卻激化出很多問題和矛盾。兩個人每天吵啊、打啊，最後鬧離婚。
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因此，想要擁有幸福甜蜜的婚姻，人與人之間是否應該多幾分寬容？
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本週六歡迎大家與我來聊聊，這每天都會在家中上演的鍋碗瓢盆交響曲，談談該如何才能奏出悅耳動聽的樂章！讓生活更美麗、更動聽，幸福又快樂！
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也歡迎大家把自己的經歷分享出來，大家相互學習與成長。
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【全球各地網路共修時間】
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臺北/北京/馬來西亞/新加坡 時間：
２０１７年７月２２日，上午９：００開始
２.韓國時間：２０１７年７月２２日，上午１０：００開始
３.北美東部時間：２０１７年７月２１日，晚上９：００開始
４.北美太平洋時間：２０１７年７月２１日，晚上６：００開始
５.澳洲墨爾本時間：２０１７年７月２２日，中午１１：００開始
６.印尼雅加達時間：２０１７年７月２２日，上午８：００開始
７.羅馬尼亞時間：２０１７年７月２２日，淩晨４：００開始
８.英國倫敦時間：２０１７年７月２２日，淩晨２：００開始
９.澳洲(悉尼)時間：２０１７年７月２２日，早上１１：００開始
１０.緬甸（仰光）時間：２０１７年７月２２日，早上７：３０開始
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備註：各地禪堂一般共修時間為星期六上午９：００開始，欲前往各地禪堂參與共修者，請事先諮詢各地禪堂，以當地時間為主。
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The elixir to a happily life!! (July 22, 2017)
How do we sustain a blissful and happy marriage?
Let me share with you a story to initiate some thoughts.
A young couple came to see me. The wife said: “I want to divorce him.” I asked: “What has it got to do with me? Your marriage certificate is not issued by me.” Hearing this, the husband said: ”If she really wanted a divorce, there is nothing I can do. So we came to seek your advice.” Although both of them wanted a divorce, deep in their hearts, they still have strong feelings for one another. They wanted me to evaluate who is right and who is wrong.
The wife complained: “He does not bother to bathe and brush his teeth regularly. He is so dirty. I brush my teeth four to five times a day.”
I retorted: “You have so much free time? Otherwise, how could you brush your teeth so often?”
The husband continued: “ Actually I do not want a divorce, I tried to accommodate her. Once, she cooked a meal and sought my comments. I merely told her the food was not too bad, and suggested that she add a little salt into the dish next time (apparently, she forgot to add salt). When I reached home after work next day, my wife was eating a bowl of noodles she had cooked for herself. When I asked her: “Where is my share?” She replied: “I thought you complained on my cooking?” Since that fateful day, she stopped cooking for me entirely. This cold war lasted for a month and subsequently the conflicts worsened.”
Personally, I felt this female disciple was too picky; secondly, she loved herself too much. What do you think? Can this couple get along well and enjoy a blissful marriage? Not likely since they cared too much about themselves and are too self-centered. With such spouse, life is bound to be torturous and full of suffering.
In reality, what started as a very small matter got blown out of proportion, which created problems and conflicts. They argued and quarreled daily and now they are contemplating a divorce.
If we want to enjoy a sweet and happy marriage, shouldn’t we show greater consideration towards our spouse and learn to be more tolerant?
I welcome you to join me this Saturday to discuss how can we transform daily squabbles at home into a symphony orchestra so that we enjoy a happier life! Feel free to share your personal experiences so that we can all learn from each other and progress together.
Online Global Group Practice Schedules:
1. Taipei/ Beijing/ Malaysia/ Singapore: July 22, 2017, at 9:00hrs
2. Korea: July 22, 2017, at 10:00hrs
3. North America (Eastern Zone): July 21, 2017 at 21:00hrs
4. North America (Pacific Zone): July 21, 2017 at 18:00hrs
5. Melbourne (Australia): July 22, 2017, at 11:00hrs
6. Jakarta (Indonesia): July 22, 2017, at 8:00hrs
7. Romania: July 22, 2017, at 4:00hrs
8. London (United Kingdom): July 22, 2017, at 2:00hrs
9. Sydney (Australia): July 22, 2017, at 11:00hrs
10. Yangon (Myanmar): July 22, 2017, at 07:30hrs
(Group practice generally starts at 9.00 a.m. in all Bodhi Meditation Centers. It is advisable to call your local center for confirmation.)
#OnlineGroupGlobalPracticeNotice, #TolerateWithCompassion ,#MasterJinBodhiTeachings, #CompassionAndTolerant, #RidDesireForGreed
#週六共修預告、#慈悲的包容、#金菩提宗師開示、#慈悲與寬容、#去貪執rnrn獲得幸福生活的靈丹妙藥！！（２０１７年７月２２日）
.
想要擁有幸福甜蜜的婚姻，應該如何做？
我先說個故事給大家思考一下……
.
有一對小夫妻一起來找我。太太說：「我要跟他離婚。」我問：「離婚怎麼跑我這兒來了？你們結婚證書也不是我發的。」這時，先生說：「她真要離，我也沒有辦法。到您這來問問您怎麼看？」其實，他們想離，但是心裡還是有點戀戀不捨，想找我給評評理。
.
太太說：「他經常不洗澡、不刷牙，特別髒。我一天刷四五遍牙呢。」
.
我說：「你每天閒著不工作，光刷牙？」
.
先生說：「其實我也不想離，我也想包容她。有一次她做好了飯，問我好不好吃。我說還可以，但是下次能不能放鹽進去啊（原來菜裡沒放鹽）。第二天我下班回家，太太就煮了一碗麵自己在那吃。我問：『我的飯呢？』她說：『你不是嫌我做得不好吃嗎？』 太太從此不給我做飯吃，這一僵持就是一個月，之後矛盾就更加激化起來了。」
.
我是覺得，第一、這個女弟子太挑剔了；第二、她太在乎自己了。請問：這樣的夫妻，能成為一對好夫妻嗎？做不成的，因為太在乎自己了，太我執了。遇上這樣的老婆或丈夫，生活一定是痛苦的。
.
其實是很小的事情，卻激化出很多問題和矛盾。兩個人每天吵啊、打啊，最後鬧離婚。
.
因此，想要擁有幸福甜蜜的婚姻，人與人之間是否應該多幾分寬容？
.
本週六歡迎大家與我來聊聊，這每天都會在家中上演的鍋碗瓢盆交響曲，談談該如何才能奏出悅耳動聽的樂章！讓生活更美麗、更動聽，幸福又快樂！
.
也歡迎大家把自己的經歷分享出來，大家相互學習與成長。
.
.
.
【全球各地網路共修時間】
.
臺北/北京/馬來西亞/新加坡 時間：
２０１７年７月２２日，上午９：００開始
２.韓國時間：２０１７年７月２２日，上午１０：００開始
３.北美東部時間：２０１７年７月２１日，晚上９：００開始
４.北美太平洋時間：２０１７年７月２１日，晚上６：００開始
５.澳洲墨爾本時間：２０１７年７月２２日，中午１１：００開始
６.印尼雅加達時間：２０１７年７月２２日，上午８：００開始
７.羅馬尼亞時間：２０１７年７月２２日，淩晨４：００開始
８.英國倫敦時間：２０１７年７月２２日，淩晨２：００開始
９.澳洲(悉尼)時間：２０１７年７月２２日，早上１１：００開始
１０.緬甸（仰光）時間：２０１７年７月２２日，早上７：３０開始
.
備註：各地禪堂一般共修時間為星期六上午９：００開始，欲前往各地禪堂參與共修者，請事先諮詢各地禪堂，以當地時間為主。
.
.
The elixir to a happily life!! (July 22, 2017)
How do we sustain a blissful and happy marriage?
Let me share with you a story to initiate some thoughts.
A young couple came to see me. The wife said: “I want to divorce him.” I asked: “What has it got to do with me? Your marriage certificate is not issued by me.” Hearing this, the husband said: ”If she really wanted a divorce, there is nothing I can do. So we came to seek your advice.” Although both of them wanted a divorce, deep in their hearts, they still have strong feelings for one another. They wanted me to evaluate who is right and who is wrong.
The wife complained: “He does not bother to bathe and brush his teeth regularly. He is so dirty. I brush my teeth four to five times a day.”
I retorted: “You have so much free time? Otherwise, how could you brush your teeth so often?”
The husband continued: “ Actually I do not want a divorce, I tried to accommodate her. Once, she cooked a meal and sought my comments. I merely told her the food was not too bad, and suggested that she add a little salt into the dish next time (apparently, she forgot to add salt). When I reached home after work next day, my wife was eating a bowl of noodles she had cooked for herself. When I asked her: “Where is my share?” She replied: “I thought you complained on my cooking?” Since that fateful day, she stopped cooking for me entirely. This cold war lasted for a month and subsequently the conflicts worsened.”
Personally, I felt this female disciple was too picky; secondly, she loved herself too much. What do you think? Can this couple get along well and enjoy a blissful marriage? Not likely since they cared too much about themselves and are too self-centered. With such spouse, life is bound to be torturous and full of suffering.
In reality, what started as a very small matter got blown out of proportion, which created problems and conflicts. They argued and quarreled daily and now they are contemplating a divorce.
If we want to enjoy a sweet and happy marriage, shouldn’t we show greater consideration towards our spouse and learn to be more tolerant?
I welcome you to join me this Saturday to discuss how can we transform daily squabbles at home into a symphony orchestra so that we enjoy a happier life! Feel free to share your personal experiences so that we can all learn from each other and progress together.
Online Global Group Practice Schedules:
1. Taipei/ Beijing/ Malaysia/ Singapore: July 22, 2017, at 9:00hrs
2. Korea: July 22, 2017, at 10:00hrs
3. North America (Eastern Zone): July 21, 2017 at 21:00hrs
4. North America (Pacific Zone): July 21, 2017 at 18:00hrs
5. Melbourne (Australia): July 22, 2017, at 11:00hrs
6. Jakarta (Indonesia): July 22, 2017, at 8:00hrs
7. Romania: July 22, 2017, at 4:00hrs
8. London (United Kingdom): July 22, 2017, at 2:00hrs
9. Sydney (Australia): July 22, 2017, at 11:00hrs
10. Yangon (Myanmar): July 22, 2017, at 07:30hrs
(Group practice generally starts at 9.00 a.m. in all Bodhi Meditation Centers. It is advisable to call your local center for confirmation.)
#OnlineGroupGlobalPracticeNotice, #TolerateWithCompassion ,#MasterJinBodhiTeachings, #CompassionAndTolerant, #RidDesireForGreed
#週六共修預告、#慈悲的包容、#金菩提宗師開示、#慈悲與寬容、#去貪執
