「創造幸福家庭」我會說話了！
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前兩天，有位網友很興奮地給我留言：
「師父，我會說話了！」
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「啊，你原來不能講話？」我問。
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「不是不是，我不是啞巴。可是我之前講話，家裡沒有人愛搭理我，全都跑得遠遠的。我先生每天下班很晚才回家，兒子下課後就把自己鎖在房間裡，女兒更是準備好了，要到幾千里之外的城市去上大學。」
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「那妳之前怎麼講話的，這麼有力度啊？」我小心地提問。
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「唉，說來話長。我以前是出了名的火爆脾氣、在家裡天天數落家人，覺得我可也賺錢養家了，你們都要感謝我。我的孩子那時候正好進入青春期，變得不愛說話，更不愛和我交流。我呢，要嘛責備孩子成績不好、要嘛說他們不聽話，孩子們更不喜歡和我交流，一說話就吵架。
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開始跟您學習後，我慢慢明白了一些道理，知道與家人需要多溝通。我不再一味責備孩子們，開始反省自己，盡量多想想孩子們和先生的需求，盡量把飯做好吃一些、多關心他們，少一些負面的碎碎念和嘮叨，說話前都先提醒自己，多想想他們聽到會有什麼感受？真的想發火的時候，我就採取您教的絕招：1、2、3，先走人。
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現在孩子們和先生也注意到我的變化，都說：「媽媽會說話了！」也開始樂於和我溝通。現在家裡吃飯的時候，一家人坐在一起分享今天的大小見聞，開開心心的。女兒還開始告訴我一些她在學校裡遇到的煩心事。我真的又找到做媽媽的幸福了。?」
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我聽了，也替她開心。想想，這位母親如果不改變，將來子女可能各奔一方，家庭成員互不往來，那個家就不再有溫暖了。
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一個知理、有愛心的媽媽，能夠創造一個幸福的家庭！
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希望天下的媽媽們，都是幸福家庭的締造者！
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#我會說話了、#親子教育、#幸福家庭
「Create a happy family」 – I can finally speak!
Two days ago, an internet friend excitedly left me a message, “Master, I can finally speak!”
“So you couldn’t speak previously?”, I asked.
“No, I’m not a mute. It’s just that when I spoke previously, no one in the house would respond. They would all distance themselves from me. My husband would return home late from work every night and my son would lock himself in his room after school. My daughter was then preparing for college in a city thousands of miles away.”
“So, was the way you communicate previously very authoritative?”, I asked tactfully.
“It’s a long story. I used to be known for my fiery temper. I criticized my family members daily, and held the mentality that since I earned money to support the family, everyone owed me. My children who were undergoing puberty then, became withdrawn and did not like to communicate with me. We would quarrel at the first opportunity.
After I started practicing with you, I gradually understood the reasons and knew that I needed to communicate more with my family. I no longer find faults with the children, and have begun to self-reflect. I consider more about my children’s and husband’s needs, try my best to prepare good food, and show more concern with less negativity and nagging. I now consciously put myself in their shoes before speaking, and consider their feelings. When I get really upset, I’d apply your useful approach of counting: 1, 2, 3, before walking away.
Now my children and husband noticed the change in me. They remarked, “Mommy can now speak!” They are thus happy to interact with me. Nowadays, we share the bits and pieces of the day’s happenings over meals at home blissfully. My daughter also shares her challenges in school with me. I have regained the happiness of being a mother again. ?
I listened intently to her sharing, and am overjoyed for her. Consider if this mother had not changed for the better, her children might have left her and the family broken apart in the near future, and she would not have experienced the familial warmth as she does now.
A wise, reasonable mother, one who is filled with love, has the means to create a happy family!
May all the mothers in the world be the creators of a happy family!
#ICanFinallySpeak，#ParentalEducation，#HappyFamilyrnrn「創造幸福家庭」我會說話了！
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前兩天，有位網友很興奮地給我留言：
「師父，我會說話了！」
.
「啊，你原來不能講話？」我問。
.
「不是不是，我不是啞巴。可是我之前講話，家裡沒有人愛搭理我，全都跑得遠遠的。我先生每天下班很晚才回家，兒子下課後就把自己鎖在房間裡，女兒更是準備好了，要到幾千里之外的城市去上大學。」
.
「那妳之前怎麼講話的，這麼有力度啊？」我小心地提問。
.
「唉，說來話長。我以前是出了名的火爆脾氣、在家裡天天數落家人，覺得我可也賺錢養家了，你們都要感謝我。我的孩子那時候正好進入青春期，變得不愛說話，更不愛和我交流。我呢，要嘛責備孩子成績不好、要嘛說他們不聽話，孩子們更不喜歡和我交流，一說話就吵架。
.
開始跟您學習後，我慢慢明白了一些道理，知道與家人需要多溝通。我不再一味責備孩子們，開始反省自己，盡量多想想孩子們和先生的需求，盡量把飯做好吃一些、多關心他們，少一些負面的碎碎念和嘮叨，說話前都先提醒自己，多想想他們聽到會有什麼感受？真的想發火的時候，我就採取您教的絕招：1、2、3，先走人。
.
現在孩子們和先生也注意到我的變化，都說：「媽媽會說話了！」也開始樂於和我溝通。現在家裡吃飯的時候，一家人坐在一起分享今天的大小見聞，開開心心的。女兒還開始告訴我一些她在學校裡遇到的煩心事。我真的又找到做媽媽的幸福了。?」
.
我聽了，也替她開心。想想，這位母親如果不改變，將來子女可能各奔一方，家庭成員互不往來，那個家就不再有溫暖了。
.
一個知理、有愛心的媽媽，能夠創造一個幸福的家庭！
.
希望天下的媽媽們，都是幸福家庭的締造者！
.
#我會說話了、#親子教育、#幸福家庭
「Create a happy family」 – I can finally speak!
Two days ago, an internet friend excitedly left me a message, “Master, I can finally speak!”
“So you couldn’t speak previously?”, I asked.
“No, I’m not a mute. It’s just that when I spoke previously, no one in the house would respond. They would all distance themselves from me. My husband would return home late from work every night and my son would lock himself in his room after school. My daughter was then preparing for college in a city thousands of miles away.”
“So, was the way you communicate previously very authoritative?”, I asked tactfully.
“It’s a long story. I used to be known for my fiery temper. I criticized my family members daily, and held the mentality that since I earned money to support the family, everyone owed me. My children who were undergoing puberty then, became withdrawn and did not like to communicate with me. We would quarrel at the first opportunity.
After I started practicing with you, I gradually understood the reasons and knew that I needed to communicate more with my family. I no longer find faults with the children, and have begun to self-reflect. I consider more about my children’s and husband’s needs, try my best to prepare good food, and show more concern with less negativity and nagging. I now consciously put myself in their shoes before speaking, and consider their feelings. When I get really upset, I’d apply your useful approach of counting: 1, 2, 3, before walking away.
Now my children and husband noticed the change in me. They remarked, “Mommy can now speak!” They are thus happy to interact with me. Nowadays, we share the bits and pieces of the day’s happenings over meals at home blissfully. My daughter also shares her challenges in school with me. I have regained the happiness of being a mother again. ?
I listened intently to her sharing, and am overjoyed for her. Consider if this mother had not changed for the better, her children might have left her and the family broken apart in the near future, and she would not have experienced the familial warmth as she does now.
A wise, reasonable mother, one who is filled with love, has the means to create a happy family!
May all the mothers in the world be the creators of a happy family!
#ICanFinallySpeak，#ParentalEducation，#HappyFamily
