提問，靈籤怎麼說？
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之前在亞洲，有一位年輕的媽媽抽了一隻籤，來找我解籤。
我看了一眼籤，就問：「妳這隻籤是要問什麼事情呢？」
她有點猶豫的說：「我的先生不愛我，我想和他離婚。」
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我問她：「你們有孩子嗎？」
「有」她抱起一個可愛的小男孩說。
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我說：「孩子都有了，為什麼還要離婚呢？」
她開始述說她生活中的難題：「我的先生太自私，不讓我花錢。我不同意，他就連我買高級化妝品的錢都不讓我花。」
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我請她給我看看她先生的照片。
一眼看去，是一個比較正氣的男生，有點嚴肅。
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我問：「他有找小三嗎？」
她回：「沒有。」
「他有賭博或是抽煙酗酒的惡習嗎？」我再問
她回：「也沒有。」
「他這麼在意錢，要用錢來做什麼呢？」我說
她回：「先生總是在投資，想存下來更多的錢去投資，連我的獎金他也都想省下來投資。」
我問：「那他投資的收入有交給你管嗎？」
她回：「開始有的，但是我想花，他就不讓我動了，他說要存著或是再投資。」
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我說：「姑娘，你的先生是個難得的好男人啊！不找小三，不亂花錢，不花俏，還肯為未來計畫，是個好人。他只是不太懂得怎麼哄你開心。你要想清楚啊！」
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她一聽，眼睛亮了一下，心頭好像有個重石頭放下了。
我又給她讀簽文：「你看這籤文的提示也是告訴妳不要輕舉妄動。」
她看起來很明白了，但還是遲疑地說：「但是我奶奶一直勸我離婚，讓我再找一個疼我的男人。」
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我一聽，大概明白了原因，就說：「你給我看看妳奶奶的照片。」
我一瞧果然，照片中是一個相當厲害的婦人。
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我說：「姑娘，和先生結婚過一輩子的是你，不是你奶奶。你看看周圍還有幾個好男人？有多少未婚、美貌的姑娘還沒有結婚？你捨得放下兒子嗎？你如果離婚，帶著個孩子，還能找到一個好男人嗎？你的先生實際上很愛你，又顧家。他只是比較嚴肅、古板一點，不知道怎麼疼你。你啊，要孝敬老人家，但是不要盲目地相信你奶奶的建議啊！」
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她這次終於釋懷了，抱著孩子，收好籤文，跟我道謝。
我說：「妳回去學著跟先生撒撒嬌，會發現他其實很疼妳的。」
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Question: What does the divine lot says?
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Once in Asia, a young mother picked a divine lot and asked me to decipher the contents of the divine lot. After reading the divine lot, I asked her:” What do you wish to enquire about for this divine lot that you picked?”
She said hesitantly: “ My husband does not love me, and I’m thinking of a divorce.”
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I asked:” Do you have children?” To which she replied Yes! while holding up her young adorable son.
I continued:” You have a child now, so why do you want to divorce your husband?”
She started to narrate her difficulties:” My husband is too selfish. He doesn’t allow me to spend and even go Dutch (split cost) with me over meals!”
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I asked to see her husband’s photograph. He looks proper and serious.
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So, I continued to ask:” Does he have a mistress?”
She replied:” No.”
“Does he gamble or spend mindlessly?” I continued.
“No.” she replied.
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So, I queried:” Why would he be so particular about money? What does he do with the money?”
She replied:” My husband is always into investment. He wanted to save more money to invest to the extent that he would save up my expenditure on cosmetics for his investment.”
I continued to ask:” So, does your husband hand over his investment income to you?”
To which she replied:” He did so in the beginning until I started to spend it. He insisted that the investment income be saved or reinvested.
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Having asked all the questions, I said: “Lady, you are so fortunate to have such a good husband! He does not have a mistress, does not squander money, not fanciful in lifestyle, and plans for the future. He is a good man. He is just not good at pleasing you to make you happy. You may want to rethink clearly!”
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Having heard what I said, she seemed to see the light and felt relieved from the heavy load in her heart.
I continued to elaborate on the divine lot’s contents” The lot reminds you to be cautious and not to take any unwise actions.”
She seemed to understand what I said but continued: “But my mother has been persuading me to divorce him and asked me to look for someone who loves me.”
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I began to understand and asked:” Can I look at a photograph of your mother?” From the photograph of her mother, I assessed that she is an aggressive woman.
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In conclusion I said:” Lady, you are the one spending your whole life with your husband, not your mother. Look around and see how many good men are there to choose? How many unmarried and beautiful women around you? Are you ready to leave your son? If you divorce your husband, would you be able to find another good man? In fact, your husband actually loves you, and cares for the family. He is just a little strict and disciplined with things, and doesn’t know how to show his love for you. So, while you are filial to your mother, you may not want to blindly heed her advice.
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She finally looked relieved, carried her son, kept the divine lot, and thanked me.
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Lastly, I added:” When you are home, try to pamper and humor your husband a little, and you may discover that he actually loves you.”
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