【六字大明咒系列】
───父母怎樣為孩子誦念？
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懷孕的母親或生了孩子的父母，
想讓孩子健康、智慧、好命，請試試這一招！
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多年前，一位母親領著孩子向我求助，說一個月來，孩子睡覺特別差，總是被嚇醒，能量消耗特別嚴重，已經沒法去上學了。我教這位母親一個方法，約一個星期後，她帶著孩子來感謝我，因為她的孩子已經完全恢復正常了。
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究竟是什麼方法？
快點開短片，讓我告訴你。
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歡迎到慈悲音試聽「六字大明咒」
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#六字大明咒 #誦念 #祝福 #孩子
【連載】養生講堂_親子系列 ───如何培…
【連載】養生講堂_親子系列
───如何培養孩子的耐力和毅力？
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問：「如何培養孩子的耐力和毅力？」
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想幫助孩子改變半途而廢的習慣，讓孩子做事有動力，懂得堅持和忍耐，其實，家長可以做的努力有很多。
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如果家長們有興趣，歡迎來聽聽我的建議！
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#孩子 #耐力 #毅力 #鼓勵 #親子問答
【連載】養生講堂_親子系列 ───孩子沉…
【連載】養生講堂_親子系列
───孩子沉迷於手機該怎麼辦？
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問：「孩子整天玩手機遊戲，不吃早餐，還總熬夜。我十分擔心他會把身體搞壞，但怎麼講都沒用，該怎麼辦呢？」
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現在，手機在生活中的功用越來越強大，幾乎做很多事情都離不開它。可對於處在學習和成長階段的孩子來說，總是沉迷手機也不妥，這實在令家長很頭疼。我倒是有一個建議，希望能幫助到你。
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#孩子 #手機 #沉迷遊戲 #合約 #親子問答
【連載】養生講堂_親子系列 ───如何引…
【連載】養生講堂_親子系列
───如何引導孩子確立人生目標？
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問：「孩子對未來很迷茫，如何引導他確立目標呢？」
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看到孩子迷茫，家長也會跟著擔憂、著急。從哪裡入手，可以助孩子一臂之力呢？我的說法供你參考。
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#孩子 #職業 #方向 #興趣 #親子問答
【Follow-up Series】 Wellness Seminar_Q&A On Parenting
– How do we guide our children in setting goals in life?
Q: “My child is lost and perplexed about his future, how do we guide him in setting life goals?”
Seeing our children confused, it is inevitable that as parents, we would be equally worried and anxious. Where can we start to help our children? Here are some suggestions for your reference.
#Children, #Career, #Direction, #Interests, #ParentingQ&A
「一個讓人驚訝的實驗」 . . 在網路上…
「一個讓人驚訝的實驗」
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在網路上，我看過這麼一個實驗:
有一個科學家，把一條大魚放進有許多小魚的池裡，大魚餓了就遊上去抓小魚吃。
過了一段時間，科學家就用一個透明的玻璃瓶把大魚罩起來，再重新放進有很多魚的池子裡。開始，大魚看到小魚就馬上衝上去咬，「咚」的一聲，沒想到卻一頭撞上玻璃瓶，眼前的美食能看卻不能吃，加上肚子又餓，牠非常著急，大魚連續衝撞玻璃瓶，撞得滿頭包，都沒有吃到小魚，牠的體力漸漸的耗盡了，大魚掠食者的角度也不再雄姿萬丈，雖然牠肚子很餓，但是牠每次想吃魚，就會撞得頭破血流，慢慢的，大魚的衝撞越來越少……….
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最後，牠完全絕望了，牠放棄了捕食小魚的所有努力。
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後來，科學家把套在大魚身上的玻璃瓶取下，備受打擊的大魚沉到了池底，一動也不動了。無論有多少條小魚在牠的身邊，甚至嘴邊游來遊去，牠都不會再想張張嘴。最後，這條大魚就這麼給活活餓死了。
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是什麼最讓人失望、放棄？
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聽完這個故事，也許你會說:「師父，這條大魚真是笨啊！」
可是你們想想，大魚原來是個捕魚高手啊，可是，在牠無數次的衝撞碰壁之後，在那個隱形的壁壘面前一次次失敗之後，牠開始懷疑自己原有的捕魚能力，最後徹底絕望，完全放棄自己。
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轉給我這個故事的同修還跟我說：有一種精神上的疾病，叫做「習慣性愚蠢」。
就是說孩子在學習的過程中，會因為某些原因，比如說交不到朋友、考試考不好、或老是被罵「笨」。在孩子的大腦中 ，就會逐漸產生對自我學習的懷疑，並且喪失信心，而表現出的學習障礙。因為當孩子放棄了自己，就真的變得「越來越笨」，還可能因此交上壞朋友走上歪路。
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所以，如果整天處於這樣的負面暗示裡，孩子就會完全相信自己「真的很笨」？！
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「為了孩子光明的未來，請給予孩子更多正面、積極的鼓勵吧！」
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我給父母以下的建議:
1. 多給孩子正面暗示，多觀察孩子的長處。
2. 多給孩子鼓勵，並營造一個正面、積極向上的語言環境。
3. 營造一個光明健康的心理環境，能夠正確認識失敗。
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避免:
1. 情緒失控，無法冷靜。
2. 孩子不聽，直接開罵。
3. 一有問題，爸媽總是唸不停。
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多給孩子正面暗示與鼓勵，給予雙方積極向上的語言環境去溝通。讓孩子的身心都處於光明、健康的環境裡成長、才能幫助孩子變得自信、聰明，而且更有智慧。
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An amazing experiment
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I’ve come across this experiment on the internet:
A scientist placed a big fish into a pond with many small fishes. The big fish would swim up to catch the small fishes to eat when hungry. After a while, the scientist put the big fish in a transparent glass jar and place it back into the pond with lots of fishes. Initially, the big fish came up to bite as soon as it saw the little fishes. “Boom!”, it unexpectedly hit the glass jar. Seeing food before itself yet unable to eat, and with the increasing hunger, it became very anxious. It then continuously knocked at the glass jar until its head was full of bumps. However, it still could not eat at the small fishes. As its physical strength gradually runs out, the big fish lost its prior predatory confidence. Despite being hungry, every time it wanted to eat the fishes, it would get badly bruised. Gradually, the knocks became less..
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Eventually, it lost all hopes of catching the small fishes for food, and gave up all efforts to do so.
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Subsequently, the scientist took out the glass jar that was hindering the big fish. The big fish that had suffered several setbacks simply sank to the bottom of the pond and did not move. No matter how many small fishes swam by its side, even near his mouth, it would not open his mouth. The big fish finally starved to death.
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What is it that is most disappointing and causes one to give up?
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After listening to this story, perhaps you will say, “Master, this big fish is really stupid!”
Yet, do consider that the big fish was originally a fishing expert. Yet, after countless times of colliding with the invisible jar, in the face of the series of failures, it began to doubt its original fishing ability, eventually succumbing to total despair, and then completely giving up on itself.
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The fellow practitioner who shared this story even suggested that there is a mental illness known as “habitual stupidity”. In the process of learning, for some reasons, some children for example, are not able to make new friends, have poor tests’ results, or are always being scolded “stupid”. In such children’s minds, there is a gradual emergence of self-doubt and loss of confidence, becoming a learning disability. As the children gave up on themselves, they may actually become “more and more stupid”, and may also be misled by bad company and be wayward.
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Thus, a child who is subject to such negative cues all day may eventually be led to completely believe that he is “indeed stupid”!
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“For our children’s bright future, please give them more positive and active encouragement!”
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May I suggest the following advice to parents:
1. Provide more positive cues to children, and observe their strengths.
2. Encourage children, and create an environment of positive and active engagement.
3. Create a bright and healthy psychological environment, one that allows for correct understanding of the reasons for setbacks.
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Avoid:
1. Situations where parents have poor emotional control, or are unable to remain calm.
2. Immediate scolding when the children do not obey.
3. Whenever there is a problem, parents always nag repeatedly.
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Provide children with positive cues and encouragement, set the stage for both sides to enjoy a healthy environment for positive language and communication. Let the child’s body and mind nurture in a bright, healthy environment, so as to help children gain confidence, intelligence, and wisdom.
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#ProactivePursuitOfLifeAmbition, #Children, #SelfRealization, #CharacterEducation, #TowardOptimism, #IlluminatedBodyAndMind, #HealthyGrowth、#積極成就的人生、#孩子、#自我暗示、#品格教育、#正向陽光、#身心光明、#健康成長
當孩子遇上躲不掉的誘惑？ . 有許多家長…
當孩子遇上躲不掉的誘惑？
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有許多家長憂心忡忡地來問我:「孩子沉迷上網，真是讓我傷透腦筋，請問師父我該怎麼辦？」
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我說，首先要恭喜你，孩子能上網就說明智力基本正常，能到網上和人對打遊戲，就說明智力偏高；能在網上修改圖片，把媽媽修的跟天仙一樣美，這叫境界！「電腦」是現代人謀生的工具，孩子如果沒有具備基本的電腦技能，將來是找不到工作的！
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所以，當我們家長在分析事情上，要學會看到「好的一面」，只要提醒孩子不要玩太久。並且給予孩子正確的引導，那麼，原本可能造成親子間感情破裂的傷害，就會變成彼此聊天的話題了。
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如何讓親子間的互動不再對立，減少雙方的傷害和煩惱呢？
讓我們在這次的週末共修，一起來研究如何《學著快樂》吧！ 歡迎大家一起來腦力激盪一下，願家長們多點智慧去理解孩子！願天下的孩子們都幸福、快樂！
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讚是一種鼓勵，分享是最好的支持。
?歡迎分享，多傳多福！！ ?
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【全球各地網路共修時間】
1. 臺北/北京/馬來西亞/新加坡 時間：２０１７年１月２０日，上午９：００開始
２.韓國時間：２０１８年１月２０日，上午１０：００開始
３.北美東部時間：２０１８年１月１９日，晚上８：００開始
４.北美太平洋時間：２０１８年１月１９日，晚上５：００開始
５.澳洲墨爾本時間：２０１８年１月２０日，中午１１：００開始
６.印尼雅加達時間：２０１８年１月２０日，上午８：００開始
７.羅馬尼亞時間：２０１８年１月２０日，淩晨４：００開始
８.英國倫敦時間：２０１８年１月２０日，淩晨２：００開始
９.澳洲(悉尼)時間：２０１８年１月２０日，早上１１：００開始
１０.緬甸（仰光）時間：２０１８年１月２０日，早上７：３０開始
備註：各地禪堂一般共修時間為星期六上午９：００開始，欲前往各地禪堂參與共修者，請事先諮詢各地禪堂，以當地時間為主。
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#週六網路共修、#電腦、#學著快樂、#孩子、#金菩提宗師開示、#青少年rnrnA temptation that is difficult for a child to resist?
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Many worried parents approached me, “I am worried about my child’s addiction to Internet. What should I do?”
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My response, “First of all, I like to congratulate you. The fact that your child can surf the Internet means that his intelligence is basically normal. Those who can play online computer games generally have higher intelligence. For those who can modify pictures to make their mother look young are even more intelligent!”
Computers are now the tools of modern life. Your child will not be able to find a job if he does not have basic computer skills!
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As parents, we have to learn to see the “good side” when we analyze a situation. We just have to remind our child not to play too long and to give them the right guidance. Thus we can change a bad situation to a good conversation topic.
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How to improve the relationship with your child and resolve unnecessary conflicts?
Let’s “Learn to be happy” in this Saturday’s Online Global Group Practice!
May parents have more wisdom in understanding their child!
May all children be happy!
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“Like” is a form of encouragement, “Share” is the best support.
?More sharing, more blessings!?
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Online Global Group Practice Schedules:
1. Taipei/ Beijing/ Malaysia/ Singapore: Jan 20, 2017, at 9:00hrs
2. Korea: Jan 20, 2017, at 10:00hrs
3. North America (Eastern Zone): Jan 19, 2017 at 21:00hrs
4. North America (Pacific Zone): Jan 19, 2017 at 18:00hrs
5. Melbourne (Australia): Jan 20, 2017, at 11:00hrs
6. Jakarta (Indonesia): Jan 20, 2017, at 8:00hrs
7. Romania: Jan 20, 2017, at 4:00hrs
8. London (United Kingdom): Jan 20, 2017, at 2:00hrs
9. Sydney (Australia): Jan 20, 2017, at 11:00hrs
10. Yangon (Myanmar): Jan 20, 2017, at 07:30hrs
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(Group practice generally starts at 9.00 a.m. in all Bodhi Meditation Centers. It is advisable to call your local center for confirmation.)
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#SaturdayOnlineGlobalGroupPractice, #Computers, #LearnToBeHappy, #Children, #MasterJinBodhiTeachings, #Youths
家長該給孩子玩電腦嗎？ . . 不少家長…
家長該給孩子玩電腦嗎？
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不少家長為了孩子玩電腦而傷透腦筋，問我該如何來解決這個問題。曾經有一位中學老師滿面愁容地問我：「我的孩子一天到晚玩電腦，半夜才睡覺，我苦口婆心的勸他，他就是不聽，讓我真的很心煩了！」
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我問她：「妳的孩子成績怎麼樣？」
老師：「普通。」
我問：「他有殘疾嗎？」
老師：「沒有。」
我說：「哎呀，恭喜妳啊！」
老師：「恭喜我什麼啊？他那麼不聽話。」
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我說：「恭喜妳生了個好孩子啊！最起碼他的智力和身體都是正常的，這就值得恭喜了。」你知道多少女人期盼能生個孩子卻辦不到，更何況妳的孩子身體健康，妳還有什麼好抱怨的？再說，電腦是現代人謀生的工具，各行各業都必須用到電腦，孩子如果沒有具備基本的電腦技能，將來是找不上工作的；如果孩子對電腦沒興趣，我們才要擔心呢！至於如何讓孩子的電腦技能更熟練精確，重點在於父母的正確引導。比方說，請孩子幫妳拍張照片，再請他幫妳修成18歲的模樣，父母在不知不覺間培養孩子的電腦技能，這就是正確的引導。
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聽完我的一番話之後，她也認清了這個事實，改變了想法，用理解和包容去換位思考，親子之間的互動也不再對立，看到孩子玩電腦也不再滿面愁容了。
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#孩子、#玩電腦、#親子教育、#理解和包容、#覺悟之眼看起落人生rnrnShould parents let children play with computers?
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Many parents feel troubled when they see their children playing with computers and have sought my advice to resolve the problem. Among them was a Taiwanese secondary school teacher who asked me with a face full of sorrow: “My child sits in front of the computer every day from morning till night. Though I earnestly talk to him and ask him not to, he refuses to listen. I am troubled over this!”
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I asked her: “How did your child fare in his school examination?”
Secondary school teacher: “Average.”
I asked: “Does he have physical disability?”
Secondary school teacher: “ No.”
I told her: “Congratulations!”
Secondary school teacher: “ Why did you congratulate me? He is so disobedient.”
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I replied: “Congratulations on having a good child! At least his mental development and physical health is normal. You have to feel grateful for this mere fact. Do you know a lot of women desire to have children but cannot conceive? These women must be very envious of you! Besides, your child is healthy and able-bodied. What else do you have to grumble about?”
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Moreover, in this modern age, people use computers to earn a living. Every job requires the use of computers. If a child does not know how to use computers, he would not be able to find a job in the future; when he fails to find a job, you would regret it then and blame yourself for not letting him play with computers! We only need to worry if a child shows no interest in computers!
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As to how we can hone his computer literacy skill, that is dependent on parental guidance. For instance, ask your child to take photos of you and then modify them to how he thinks you looked like when you were 18 years old. That is what I would call guiding him properly. In this way, you are developing his computer skills over time.
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After listening to my words, she acknowledged the truth of my words and adopted an understanding and accommodating mindset to think from her child’s perspective. Her relationship with her child is now no longer opposing and strained. She does not look sorrowful now whenever she sees her child playing with computers.
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#Child, #PlayComputer, #ParentalGuidance, #UnderstandingAndAccommodating, #ConsciousensesOfSeeingTheUpsAndDownsOfLife