能讓你「吉祥」又「好命」的名字？
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曾經，有個同修家裡最近添了孫子，我正想向她道喜，誰知道她竟然難過地哭了起來！
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她說：「從知道媳婦懷孕的那一天開始，我跟先生就非常開心，巴不得把所有好東西都捧給他們；孫子出生之後，我們根據孫子的生辰八字，找了最好的算命師想給孫子算個吉祥順利的好名子，可我兒子居然說幫孩子取名是父母的工作，又說我們取的名字既難聽又老土！自己就去報了戶口，真是傷透我們的心了！」
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我說：「兒孫自有兒孫福，一家人何必爭鋒相對呢？假設今天妳爭贏了，孫子照著妳的意思取名字，妳高興了，可妳兒子跟媳婦都不開心了，對妳、或者對這個孩子來說，又有什麼好處呢？不如妳就跟他們商量一下，他們取的名字是大名，你們請算命師取的名字當作是小名，在家裡喊就好，這樣總可以了吧？」
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她被我說得有些開心了。回去之後，她照著我說的去跟兒子媳婦商量。她兒子媳婦，知道取名字的時候已經惹了父母不開心，這時候也願意退一步，把父母請人算的吉祥名字給孩子當小名，順利化解了一場家庭糾紛。
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其實，名字只是加分的作用而已，真正能夠決定命運的，是你是否「心懷慈悲」。如果心中沒有慈悲，總是為非作歹，那就算名子取得再好、再吉祥的名字，都沒辦法掩蓋掉他身上不好的氣息；相反的，如果這個孩子的教育很成功，從小就知道要做好事情，即使他的名字不好聽，或者說寓意有些不吉祥，可在這樣充滿善念的人身上，又能起到多少影響呢？
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One of my disciples just had a grandchild. Before I could congratulate her, she suddenly cried out loud with grief.
I said, “What happened? Tell me”.
She elaborated, “Ever since my husband and I knew about my daughter-in-law’s pregnancy, we were very happy. We were so anxious to bring all the good things to them. When the grandchild was born, we look for a fortune-teller to come up with an auspicious name based on our grandchild’s birthdate. However, my son felt that it is the responsibility of the parents to give the child his name. Moreover, he deemed that the name we have chosen is unpleasant and old-fashioned. He went to register his chosen name for his child and this has really broken our hearts.
I consoled her, “Kids have their own blessing, there is no need to result in a family rivalry. Even if your grandchild adopts your chosen name, you are happy, but your son and daughter-in-law will be miserable. What good comes out of this for you or your grandchild? Alternatively, have a discussion with them. The name chosen by your son will be the formal name while the suggested name by the fortune-teller can be the nickname to be used only at home. This should work.”
She was happy after this conversation and went home to discuss with her son and daughter-in-law. The son and daughter-in-law realized that their parents were not happy over the child’s naming issue and decided to take a step back. They agreed to adopt the name the parents got from the fortune-teller as the child’s nickname. Thus, the family dispute was peacefully resolved.
In fact, a name does not determine one’s fate, it may only score some points. What determines one’s fate is whether he has compassion in his heart. If he has no compassion in his heart and keep doing evil acts, a good and auspicious name will not cover up his negativity from these actions. In contrast, if this child has a proper education, and was taught from young to do good deeds, an unpleasant name has very little effect on someone who has so much kindness.
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