從「金繼」談禪學與關係修復
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「金繼」是一種源自於日本的傳統工藝，簡言之就是將摔碎的碗，用金或銀色的漆來當黏合劑，除了有意想不到的美感外，也有耐高溫、不易再裂的優點，因為每個摔碎的碗裂口都不一樣，所以基本上這世界不會有兩個長一樣的金繼碗，所以非常具有獨特性。
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「金繼」修復最特別之處，並不是讓裂痕隱形或消失，而是刻意去保留它的不完美，展現世上獨一無二的樣貌，頗有禪學之意味。因為，每一塊碎片似乎都在提醒我們「時間」和「無常」的存在，並且學會珍惜每個階段的自我樣貌！就像那句西方名言：「所有東西都有裂縫，這是光照入的途徑。」
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回頭想想，這金繼藝術裡面隱藏的哲思，不就像我們的人生嗎？有時你和誰鬧了彆扭，關係破裂了，大多數人都是選擇，和對方老死不相往來，就像把摔碎的碗往垃圾桶一扔，以為再買新的就了事？有的人，選擇刻意去隱藏這些裂痕，面對你的家人或工作夥伴，每個人都藏著心事共處一室，這真是多不自在的事兒呀！
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所以，與其選擇逃避或是虛偽度日，不如學習將這些裂痕昇華為一種美感，視這些不完美為開展新關係的契機。因為人和人相處不可能永遠順心如意的，而且往往是手一滑就摔碎了這關係的碗，相信沒有人會故意把碗摔碎的吧！
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學習，如何將這些看似破碎的傷口，轉換成提升自我的一塊基石。
相信，只要有心修補，用對了方法，摔碎的碗甚至能比原來的碗更具美感呢！您說是吧！！
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＃禪宗故事 ＃金繼 ＃關係修復 #藝術與禪的融合
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Using [Kintsugi] or “golden joinery” as an analogy to discuss meditation and how to mend relationships
The uniqueness of mending the cracks with [Kintsugi] is not about making the cracks invisible or disappear. Rather, it is the intention to preserve the imperfection of each bowl so that each, by itself, is a unique piece of art. This is relatively identical to meditation. Every piece reminds us of the existence of time and the transience of life. Therefore we should treasure every stage of our life! As the popular saying goes: “There is a crack in everything. That is how the light gets in.”
On the hindsight, isn’t the “hidden” philosophies of [Kintsugi] similar to our lives? At times, when we have unhappiness or arguments with someone and the relationship is strained, the majority of us would not want to contact the other party anymore. This is similar to us dumping the broken pieces of a bowl into the rubbish bin and assuming that a brand new bowl would solve all our problems? Others choose to pretend that cracks do not exist. When we are facing our family members and colleagues with unhappiness while staying under one roof, doesn’t this makes one feel unnatural and uncomfortable?
Hence, instead of pretending that conflicts do not exist or going through life in hypocrisy, why not elevate our spiritual realm and treat each imperfection or crack as an opportunity for us to build a new relationship. In reality, it is inevitable for conflicts to exist in the course of getting along with others. Most of the time, we lose our grip and hurt our relationships unintentionally. I believe no one would break a bowl on purpose!
Learn how to treat and transform these broken wounds into a stepping stone for us to self-elevate. With the right mentality and method, broken bowls may be in a better state than its original form! Do you agree?
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