【三月】想望子成龍,認真畫鱗片。 . 天…

【三月】想望子成龍,認真畫鱗片。
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天下沒有不愛子女的父母,父母大都懷抱「望子成龍、望女成鳳」之心。
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希望孩子健康成長,首先培養他成為一個有生活自理能力的人,擁有堅強的心理素質,能夠處理並解決生命中的煩惱、自信的生活。在孩子達成這個期望、長大成人之前,父母都必須去栽培他、引導他;再者,培養他擁有足夠的能力去幫助他人。
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孩子各方面的判斷力和社會經驗還不足時,偶爾做錯事是無可避免,父母應該用更多的愛心和包容心給予他關懷。父母一定要瞭解一個原則「善於引導,勤於鼓勵」:父母對孩子的期望也是一種能量,如果一昧地往壞處想,就會讓孩子越變越糟;若時常往好處想,孩子當然就會越來越好。尤其是父母和孩子之間,這種能量的傳遞是最敏感、最靈驗的。
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還要,把握一個教養原則:「適時地放手。」磨練孩子對挫折的忍受力,對於孩子日後的成長絕對有很大的幫助。
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「天生我才必有用!」對孩子永遠不要失望,孩子就像未經雕琢的鑽石,經過精心雕琢後,也許將有價值連城的可能。父母要用愛心和信心去栽培孩子,永不放棄地開發他的各項潛能,讓孩子有足夠的勇氣與毅力去開創、成就屬於他自己的人生。
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是誰,一雙魔術的手? . . 前幾天,在…

是誰,一雙魔術的手?
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前幾天,在溫哥華和英文同修們一起聊天,聊著聊著,一位高個子、很健壯的西人男士伸過頭來:「師父,請給我加持吧,幫我把所有的煩惱和壓力都去除!」
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我說:「你是怎麼啦?為什麼這麼煩惱?」
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他說:「我的工作帶給我太多的憤怒和鬱悶了!」
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我說:「那乾脆把工作辭掉、不要幹了,這樣就可以永遠不用為工作上的事情而煩惱生氣,這樣多簡單!」(我是開他玩笑啦。)
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他說:「因為我的工作是與救人、救火等相關的緊急事物,能夠幫助到很多人。常常工作時間很長、很累、有時還可能不被理解、甚至被斥責。我不能發火,於是就把火往心裡頭忍,長久忍下來,內心就越發憤怒、鬱悶、惱火了。我來學習禪修,就是希望能夠釋放這些負面情緒,讓自己清淨下來。
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可是,當禪修的時候很清淨平和。但是一旦回到工作中,每日面臨著這些緊急,巨大壓力的工作、客戶的各種責難、不理解的時候,煩惱還是會不停地回來。您能不能加持我,讓我把內心這些怒火與煩惱通通一次去除?」
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他望著我,大概希望我有一隻魔術手,能給他立即、永久地根除煩惱。
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看他這樣難受,我告訴他:「禪修可以幫助我們消除煩惱,清淨身心,但是需要常修。加持也只是暫時讓我們忘掉一些煩惱,讓大腦清晰而已。
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所以,更重要的是,我們要真正明白:
『其實我們的工作也是一種修行。』如何在高強度與壓力的工作狀態下,仍然保持一顆平和,慈悲的幫人之心,正是一個最大的修行課題。也才是根本的解決你煩惱的藥方。」
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他聽了,睜大眼睛看著我:「工作也是在修行?」
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我點點頭繼續說:
「說個網絡上的小趣聞,也許能幫助你理解!
曾經,有一個8歲的小朋友給911打電話,說她不喜歡上學,希望他們幫助她拆除學校,拆除的時候,還要確認老師們也一起被拆除掉。接到緊急電話的人也是哭笑不得,但他們並沒有因為小朋友無厘頭的要求而生氣,而是一直很耐心地寬慰引導她,告訴她老師們都是為她好,要努力地學習。」
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他們工作的性質和你的其實差不多,都是在幫人解決問題,這本該是一個值得『高興和自豪』的工作啊!但如果你總是對工作中發生的不愉快,不順心的事情而介懷,把幫人當成一種『壓力和負擔』的時候,你就會失去幫人的快樂感。
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當然你的工作,是救人救急的,要學習的是情緒分寸的掌握。就好像你的孩子正在玩火,很危險,你是要緊急制止的。所以,該急就要急,但不要讓這種急,成為我們內心的壓力和煩躁。如同大海一般,表面波濤洶湧,深海(內心)卻風平浪靜,深海的魚完全不受任何影響。
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他聽了長出一口氣:「啊,我明白了!」
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希望大家能夠用無限的「愛心」、「慈悲心」去面對工作,才能真正享受幫人的樂趣啊。
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Who has a pair of magical hands?
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A few days ago, I was chatting with some English-speaking fellow practitioners in Vancouver, when a tall and strong-looking Caucasian man suddenly stood in front and bowed his head to me: “Master! Please give me your blessings, and remove all my troubles and stress!”
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I asked: “What happened to you? What is making you so troubled?”
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He replied: “My job is making me angry and gloomy!”
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I told him: “That is simple – just quit your job. Then you will never have to be troubled or angry over things that happen at work.” (I was joking with him.)
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He said: “I get to help a lot of people in my job as I respond to crises – saving people’s lives and putting out fires. But the hours are long, the work is tiring, and sometimes I get misunderstood or even reprimanded by others. I cannot flare up at those people so I can only keep all the anger inside me. Over time, more and more anger and unhappiness accumulates in me. This is the reason that I come here to learn to meditate – I hope to be able to release these negative emotions and to achieve peace and tranquility.
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But what I found was that I can be very peaceful and serene during meditation, but the moment I return to my workplace, the pressure at work, the reprimands of the clients and the lack of understanding from others all result in the troubles coming back with a vengeance. Master, can you give me your blessings and remove all the anger and troubles from my mind?”
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He looked at me hopefully, probably hoping that I have a pair of magical hands that can help him exterminate his troubles immediately and permanently.
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Seeing how unhappy he was, I told him: “Meditation can help remove our troubles and purify our mind, but you have to practice regularly. My blessing can only clear your mind and let you forget your troubles temporarily.
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What is important is for us to fully understand that our work is also a form of practice. One of the biggest discussion topic in meditation practice is how do we keep a serene and compassionate heart, and remain always willing to help others, even in the face of immense pressure at work. The answer to that will also be the solution to your troubles.”
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His eyes widened upon hearing that: “Work is also a form of practice?”
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I nodded and continued: “Let me share an interesting story that I read on the internet. Perhaps that can help you understand! Emergency services 911 once received a call from an 8-year-old little girl. In the call, she said that she did not like going to school, and she hoped that they would help her tear down the school. She wanted them to remove her teachers at the same time. The person who answered the call did not know whether to laugh or to cry, but he did not get angry over the little girl’s unreasonable request. Instead, he consoled the little girl and explained patiently to her that the teachers have her best intentions at heart, and she should work hard in school.
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The nature of his work is very similar to yours. Both of you are trying to help others to solve their problems. This is a job that you should be happy and proud of! But if you are always brooding over the unhappiness that crops up at work or the things that did not go well, and come to regard helping others as a burden and source of pressure, you will lose the sense of happiness that can be gained from helping others.
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As your work requires you to save people and to respond to crises, it is very important for you to learn to manage your emotions well. For instance, if you find your own child playing with fire, you need to stop that immediately as it is very dangerous. Hence, you should react with urgency when the situation warrants it, but never let that sense of urgency give rise to stress and irritation in your heart. The analogy to that is the ocean – on the surface, the water is rough and the waves are strong, but in the depths of the ocean (like your mind), the water is calm, such that the fishes that reside in the deep ocean are not affected by the waves at the surface at all.”
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After hearing what I said, he let out a loud exclamation: “Oh! I understand now!”
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I hope that all of you can face your job with unlimited love and compassion. Only then can you truly experience the joy of helping others.
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#MagicianHands, #WorkIsAlsoAFormOfPractice, #Vancouver, #CompassionateHeart, #Love, #CrisisResponse, #EmotionManagement
#在工作中修行、#溫哥華、#慈悲心、#愛心、#救急、#情緒掌握
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A small wish………..

A small wish………
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A great touching gesture……
This ordinary old lady has a simple, beautiful wish in her heart.
When you are willing to help fulfill her wish, it can warm a lonely heart, and such warmth radiates to the whole city.
Are you the angel who helps to realize the wishes of others?
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#Wish, #Warmth, #Love
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【金菩提禪語】 . . 我們只有保持柔軟…

【金菩提禪語】
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我們只有保持柔軟,才能真正地去聆聽,自然萬物給我們的關愛和照顧。
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【 Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism】

Only when we maintain gentleness in our heart, will we be able to truly understand the love and protection of Mother Nature.

#AphorismOfMasterJinBodhi, #Gentle, #Love
#金菩提禪語、#柔軟、#關愛rnrn【金菩提禪語】
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我們只有保持柔軟,才能真正地去聆聽,自然萬物給我們的關愛和照顧。
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#金菩提禪語、#柔軟、#關愛


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