放下即解脫
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每逢佳節倍思親，即將到了清明祭祖的節日。
有個同修給我留言，問了一個關於親情之間要如何割捨的問題，我也趁著大家追思先祖，懷思之情最真切的時刻，與大家談談這個問題。。
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這個同修的問題是：
「一年前我的外婆去世了，我很傷心，自從她死了之後，至今，我始終念念不忘，我甚至還可以感覺得到外婆的存在，依舊活在我和外婆，一起生活的那個世界裡，所以我變得不愛與人打交道，偶而會一個人躲著哭，覺得好像世界上再沒人疼愛我了。」
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思念破輪迴….
也許我們都愛過人、被愛過，也珍惜過，無論是愛情、友情，或是親情，一但生起這段緣就會很難割捨。親情也是這樣，難分難捨，但是早晚有一天都要捨下。
因為，當我們總是想著對方，總是這樣強烈的思念你的外婆，你知道會對她帶來什麼樣的副作用嗎？就是傷害！天天這樣去憶念她，經常這樣想，那麼真實和她在一起，那種場景啊，讓她不能平靜的得以往生，你會干擾她的啊。
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比如說她要脫生到一個好人家，變成一家的孩子，可能很富貴、健康、美麗啊，你這樣不斷的憶念、憶念、憶念，她就不能走，她就在那拖著、拖著，這樣的憶念會打破這個輪迴，你這麼牽掛著拉著她，她去不了該去的地方，最後變成你會受責罰，你的奶奶，也會在那邊，會受懲罰的，所以你要放手，心裡要放下，並且給予她更多更多的祝福。
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愛，就是放手~
所以，無論是多麼親多麼愛的人，她走了，就走了，你要放下，還要自己好好活。總是憶念等於干擾，她走了就是轉生，祝福她轉生到好人家，不受苦不受難。千萬不要再想。
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我們總講要孝敬父母，恭敬祖先。但有些人不懂「孝敬」的真正意涵，親人去世了十年了，結果他就天天哭，天天想，結果最後哭成了精神病。不但把自己的精神全部搞垮，也讓對方不能真正安靜的解脫。所以忘掉吧！一切都要放下。最好是能夠為親人們，在佛前點盞光明燈，為親人照亮前方的路，並且祝福她轉生富貴、吉祥的人家。
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要想讓你祖先、親人要活得更安心，更幸福，就要好好做好你該做的事情，學好你該學的事情，這樣她才會放心，才會幸福。.
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Let go and be liberated
Ching Ming (Qing Ming) Festival is just a few days away and it is at occasions like this that we miss our dear ones the most. A fellow practitioner left me a message asking for advice on how to handle the parting of loved ones. I would like discussion this here during this period when all of us are commemorating our ancestors and the sense of longing for our loved ones is at the deepest.
This is what the fellow practitioner asked:
“My grandma passed away a year ago and her passing left me deeply heartbroken. Till today, I have not been able to get over it and I can still sense her presence. I long deeply to return to the time when my grandma was still alive. I became withdrawn, frequently hiding in a corner to cry. I felt totally alone and unloved in this world.”
Yearning breaks the cycle of reincarnation…
All of us have loved and been loved in our lives. It is not easy to let go of the bonds that were formed, regardless of whether it is romantic, platonic or familial love. As difficult as it is though, we still have to let go one of these days.
Do you know the effects on your grandma when you keep thinking about and yearning for her? You will harm her! When you miss her and think about her daily, it is as if she is really right by your side. She will be disturbed and will not be able to leave to be reborn in peace.
Maybe she is supposed to be reborn into a good family, as a healthy and pretty child with good fortune. Your constant yearning for her will hold her back. She will keep procrastinating her departure, and the cycle of reincarnation will be broken. Eventually she will end up in a place that she was never supposed to be. When that happens, both you and your grandma will suffer. This is why you have to learn to let go. Instead of holding on, give her lots and lots of blessings from the bottom of your heart and let her go to where she is supposed to be.
Love is about letting go ~
Therefore, regardless of how close you are to that person, or how much you love her, you have to let go once she is gone. Not only do you have to let go, you have to live your life well. When you yearn constantly for her, you are disturbing her. Let her leave without any attachments, give your blessings to her and pray that she gets reborn into a good family. Pray that she will have a good life, with no sufferings. After that, do not think about her any more.
All of us know that we have to be respectful towards our parents and our ancestors, but not everyone knows the true meaning of the word “respect”. Crying and yearning for a loved one for ten years after she has passed on will prevent her from moving on. Your mental state breaks down, and your loved one is not able to get reborn in peace. So the best thing to do is to forget and let it all go! Offer lights to Buddha for your loved one and pray for Buddha to light up her path. Pray that she gets reborn into a family of good fortune.
If you would like your ancestors and loved ones to be at ease, you have to do what you need to do and learn what you need to learn. That is the only way for them to be happy.
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#QingMingPayingRespectsToAncestors, #Gratitude, #Blessing, #LampOfferingsAndPrayers, #GoodFortuneAndHappiness, #HealthAndLongevity, #AphorismOfMasterJinBodhi, #LetGoToAttainLiberation, #AtEase
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#清明祭祖、#感恩、#加持、#點燈祈福、#吉祥如意、#健康長壽、#金菩提禪語、#放下即解脫、#自在rnrn放下即解脫
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每逢佳節倍思親，即將到了清明祭祖的節日。
有個同修給我留言，問了一個關於親情之間要如何割捨的問題，我也趁著大家追思先祖，懷思之情最真切的時刻，與大家談談這個問題。。
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這個同修的問題是：
「一年前我的外婆去世了，我很傷心，自從她死了之後，至今，我始終念念不忘，我甚至還可以感覺得到外婆的存在，依舊活在我和外婆，一起生活的那個世界裡，所以我變得不愛與人打交道，偶而會一個人躲著哭，覺得好像世界上再沒人疼愛我了。」
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思念破輪迴….
也許我們都愛過人、被愛過，也珍惜過，無論是愛情、友情，或是親情，一但生起這段緣就會很難割捨。親情也是這樣，難分難捨，但是早晚有一天都要捨下。
因為，當我們總是想著對方，總是這樣強烈的思念你的外婆，你知道會對她帶來什麼樣的副作用嗎？就是傷害！天天這樣去憶念她，經常這樣想，那麼真實和她在一起，那種場景啊，讓她不能平靜的得以往生，你會干擾她的啊。
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比如說她要脫生到一個好人家，變成一家的孩子，可能很富貴、健康、美麗啊，你這樣不斷的憶念、憶念、憶念，她就不能走，她就在那拖著、拖著，這樣的憶念會打破這個輪迴，你這麼牽掛著拉著她，她去不了該去的地方，最後變成你會受責罰，你的奶奶，也會在那邊，會受懲罰的，所以你要放手，心裡要放下，並且給予她更多更多的祝福。
.
愛，就是放手~
所以，無論是多麼親多麼愛的人，她走了，就走了，你要放下，還要自己好好活。總是憶念等於干擾，她走了就是轉生，祝福她轉生到好人家，不受苦不受難。千萬不要再想。
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我們總講要孝敬父母，恭敬祖先。但有些人不懂「孝敬」的真正意涵，親人去世了十年了，結果他就天天哭，天天想，結果最後哭成了精神病。不但把自己的精神全部搞垮，也讓對方不能真正安靜的解脫。所以忘掉吧！一切都要放下。最好是能夠為親人們，在佛前點盞光明燈，為親人照亮前方的路，並且祝福她轉生富貴、吉祥的人家。
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要想讓你祖先、親人要活得更安心，更幸福，就要好好做好你該做的事情，學好你該學的事情，這樣她才會放心，才會幸福。.
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Let go and be liberated
Ching Ming (Qing Ming) Festival is just a few days away and it is at occasions like this that we miss our dear ones the most. A fellow practitioner left me a message asking for advice on how to handle the parting of loved ones. I would like discussion this here during this period when all of us are commemorating our ancestors and the sense of longing for our loved ones is at the deepest.
This is what the fellow practitioner asked:
“My grandma passed away a year ago and her passing left me deeply heartbroken. Till today, I have not been able to get over it and I can still sense her presence. I long deeply to return to the time when my grandma was still alive. I became withdrawn, frequently hiding in a corner to cry. I felt totally alone and unloved in this world.”
Yearning breaks the cycle of reincarnation…
All of us have loved and been loved in our lives. It is not easy to let go of the bonds that were formed, regardless of whether it is romantic, platonic or familial love. As difficult as it is though, we still have to let go one of these days.
Do you know the effects on your grandma when you keep thinking about and yearning for her? You will harm her! When you miss her and think about her daily, it is as if she is really right by your side. She will be disturbed and will not be able to leave to be reborn in peace.
Maybe she is supposed to be reborn into a good family, as a healthy and pretty child with good fortune. Your constant yearning for her will hold her back. She will keep procrastinating her departure, and the cycle of reincarnation will be broken. Eventually she will end up in a place that she was never supposed to be. When that happens, both you and your grandma will suffer. This is why you have to learn to let go. Instead of holding on, give her lots and lots of blessings from the bottom of your heart and let her go to where she is supposed to be.
Love is about letting go ~
Therefore, regardless of how close you are to that person, or how much you love her, you have to let go once she is gone. Not only do you have to let go, you have to live your life well. When you yearn constantly for her, you are disturbing her. Let her leave without any attachments, give your blessings to her and pray that she gets reborn into a good family. Pray that she will have a good life, with no sufferings. After that, do not think about her any more.
All of us know that we have to be respectful towards our parents and our ancestors, but not everyone knows the true meaning of the word “respect”. Crying and yearning for a loved one for ten years after she has passed on will prevent her from moving on. Your mental state breaks down, and your loved one is not able to get reborn in peace. So the best thing to do is to forget and let it all go! Offer lights to Buddha for your loved one and pray for Buddha to light up her path. Pray that she gets reborn into a family of good fortune.
If you would like your ancestors and loved ones to be at ease, you have to do what you need to do and learn what you need to learn. That is the only way for them to be happy.
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#QingMingPayingRespectsToAncestors, #Gratitude, #Blessing, #LampOfferingsAndPrayers, #GoodFortuneAndHappiness, #HealthAndLongevity, #AphorismOfMasterJinBodhi, #LetGoToAttainLiberation, #AtEase
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#清明祭祖、#感恩、#加持、#點燈祈福、#吉祥如意、#健康長壽、#金菩提禪語、#放下即解脫、#自在
