家長該給孩子玩電腦嗎？
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不少家長為了孩子玩電腦而傷透腦筋，問我該如何來解決這個問題。曾經有一位中學老師滿面愁容地問我：「我的孩子一天到晚玩電腦，半夜才睡覺，我苦口婆心的勸他，他就是不聽，讓我真的很心煩了！」
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我問她：「妳的孩子成績怎麼樣？」
老師：「普通。」
我問：「他有殘疾嗎？」
老師：「沒有。」
我說：「哎呀，恭喜妳啊！」
老師：「恭喜我什麼啊？他那麼不聽話。」
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我說：「恭喜妳生了個好孩子啊！最起碼他的智力和身體都是正常的，這就值得恭喜了。」你知道多少女人期盼能生個孩子卻辦不到，更何況妳的孩子身體健康，妳還有什麼好抱怨的？再說，電腦是現代人謀生的工具，各行各業都必須用到電腦，孩子如果沒有具備基本的電腦技能，將來是找不上工作的；如果孩子對電腦沒興趣，我們才要擔心呢！至於如何讓孩子的電腦技能更熟練精確，重點在於父母的正確引導。比方說，請孩子幫妳拍張照片，再請他幫妳修成18歲的模樣，父母在不知不覺間培養孩子的電腦技能，這就是正確的引導。
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聽完我的一番話之後，她也認清了這個事實，改變了想法，用理解和包容去換位思考，親子之間的互動也不再對立，看到孩子玩電腦也不再滿面愁容了。
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#孩子、#玩電腦、#親子教育、#理解和包容、#覺悟之眼看起落人生rnrnShould parents let children play with computers?
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Many parents feel troubled when they see their children playing with computers and have sought my advice to resolve the problem. Among them was a Taiwanese secondary school teacher who asked me with a face full of sorrow: “My child sits in front of the computer every day from morning till night. Though I earnestly talk to him and ask him not to, he refuses to listen. I am troubled over this!”
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I asked her: “How did your child fare in his school examination?”
Secondary school teacher: “Average.”
I asked: “Does he have physical disability?”
Secondary school teacher: “ No.”
I told her: “Congratulations!”
Secondary school teacher: “ Why did you congratulate me? He is so disobedient.”
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I replied: “Congratulations on having a good child! At least his mental development and physical health is normal. You have to feel grateful for this mere fact. Do you know a lot of women desire to have children but cannot conceive? These women must be very envious of you! Besides, your child is healthy and able-bodied. What else do you have to grumble about?”
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Moreover, in this modern age, people use computers to earn a living. Every job requires the use of computers. If a child does not know how to use computers, he would not be able to find a job in the future; when he fails to find a job, you would regret it then and blame yourself for not letting him play with computers! We only need to worry if a child shows no interest in computers!
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As to how we can hone his computer literacy skill, that is dependent on parental guidance. For instance, ask your child to take photos of you and then modify them to how he thinks you looked like when you were 18 years old. That is what I would call guiding him properly. In this way, you are developing his computer skills over time.
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After listening to my words, she acknowledged the truth of my words and adopted an understanding and accommodating mindset to think from her child’s perspective. Her relationship with her child is now no longer opposing and strained. She does not look sorrowful now whenever she sees her child playing with computers.
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#Child, #PlayComputer, #ParentalGuidance, #UnderstandingAndAccommodating, #ConsciousensesOfSeeingTheUpsAndDownsOfLife