您有「宅」在家的孩子嗎？
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我有一個老朋友，他年紀挺大了，但時常愁眉苦臉。有一次我終於忍不住問他：「你在煩惱些什麼呀？怎麼每天唉聲嘆氣？」
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他說：「師父，我的獨子前幾年還在大公司工作，但也不知道怎麼回事，去年開始，他辭了工作，每天『宅』在他自己的公寓裡頭，不外出工作也不和人交際。我和太太想了很多辦法想讓他出門找工作，卻沒想到，他竟然嫌我們煩，最近連家都不回了！他才三十多歲就這個樣子，再這樣下去該怎麼辦才好？」
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我說：「你有沒有問過他，辭掉工作『宅』在家裡的原因是什麼？先弄清楚吧！」
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沒多久他又來找我，這次心情好多了，他說：「師父，上回和您聊完之後，我去找兒子徹夜長談。我發現，他不是整天『宅』在家什麼都不做，而是因為自己有了生涯規劃，所以才從公司離職。現在，他在家工作接案子，雖然更忙，但也比以前更快樂了。聽到兒子這樣說，我跟太太才放心下來，原來是我們誤解了！」
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很多父母看到孩子整天「宅」在家，就誤以為孩子一定是不務正業，但其實不是這樣的。時代在變，現在很多年輕人的工作型態就是「在家工作」，這是一種新型態的工作方式。就算真的很擔心孩子，也別什麼都不問就自己亂猜，可以好好和他們溝通，並一起找到解決方法。最後，祝所有的親子之間都能溝通順利！
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#親子關係、#宅在家、#新思維、#溝通rnrnDo you have a child who just likes to stay at home?
I have an old friend who is quite advanced in age but he often frowns. Once, I finally could not help it anymore and asked him, “What are you upset about? Why do you keep sighing?”
He said, “Master, my only son has been working in a large company for a few years but he quit his job last year and I do not know why. Since then, he has been staying in his apartment and has not been looking for jobs or making any social interactions. My wife and I came up with a lot of ideas to let him go out and find a job. However, he thinks we are a nuisance. Now, he even stops coming back home! He is only in his thirties. If he carries on like this, what is going to happen to him?”
I said, “Have you ever asked him why he quit his job and chose to stay at home?”
He said, “I did not ask him but I really think that he cannot remain this way!”
I said, “You have been worrying non-stop when you have not even found out the reasons for his decision. Maybe your child has his own ideas and plans! You should go and find out the reasons from him and then come back and seek solutions.”
It did not take long for him to come to me again. This time round, he was in a much better mood. He said, “Master, after talking to you the other day, I went to have a long talk with my son. Our conversation stretched through the night. I found out that he was not lazing around at home doing nothing. He has a new career plan and hence decided to quit his job. He now works from home. Though he is busier with work he is happier than ever before. After knowing his ideas and plans, my wife and I were relieved. We have misunderstood him!”
Many parents, after seeing their children choosing to stay at home instead will think that they have no ambition in life. But this is not the case. Times are changing and “working from home” is the work style of many young people today. It is a new way of working. Do not jump to conclusion and always communicate with them and help them find a solution together. Lastly, I wish there will be good communication between all parents and their children.
#ParentChildRelationship, #StayAtHome, #NewStyleOfThinking, #Communication
