您有「宅」在家的孩子嗎? . 我有一個老…

您有「宅」在家的孩子嗎?
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我有一個老朋友,他年紀挺大了,但時常愁眉苦臉。有一次我終於忍不住問他:「你在煩惱些什麼呀?怎麼每天唉聲嘆氣?」
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他說:「師父,我的獨子前幾年還在大公司工作,但也不知道怎麼回事,去年開始,他辭了工作,每天『宅』在他自己的公寓裡頭,不外出工作也不和人交際。我和太太想了很多辦法想讓他出門找工作,卻沒想到,他竟然嫌我們煩,最近連家都不回了!他才三十多歲就這個樣子,再這樣下去該怎麼辦才好?」
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我說:「你有沒有問過他,辭掉工作『宅』在家裡的原因是什麼?先弄清楚吧!」
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沒多久他又來找我,這次心情好多了,他說:「師父,上回和您聊完之後,我去找兒子徹夜長談。我發現,他不是整天『宅』在家什麼都不做,而是因為自己有了生涯規劃,所以才從公司離職。現在,他在家工作接案子,雖然更忙,但也比以前更快樂了。聽到兒子這樣說,我跟太太才放心下來,原來是我們誤解了!」
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很多父母看到孩子整天「宅」在家,就誤以為孩子一定是不務正業,但其實不是這樣的。時代在變,現在很多年輕人的工作型態就是「在家工作」,這是一種新型態的工作方式。就算真的很擔心孩子,也別什麼都不問就自己亂猜,可以好好和他們溝通,並一起找到解決方法。最後,祝所有的親子之間都能溝通順利!
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#親子關係、#宅在家、#新思維、#溝通rnrnDo you have a child who just likes to stay at home?

I have an old friend who is quite advanced in age but he often frowns. Once, I finally could not help it anymore and asked him, “What are you upset about? Why do you keep sighing?”

He said, “Master, my only son has been working in a large company for a few years but he quit his job last year and I do not know why. Since then, he has been staying in his apartment and has not been looking for jobs or making any social interactions. My wife and I came up with a lot of ideas to let him go out and find a job. However, he thinks we are a nuisance. Now, he even stops coming back home! He is only in his thirties. If he carries on like this, what is going to happen to him?”

I said, “Have you ever asked him why he quit his job and chose to stay at home?”
He said, “I did not ask him but I really think that he cannot remain this way!”

I said, “You have been worrying non-stop when you have not even found out the reasons for his decision. Maybe your child has his own ideas and plans! You should go and find out the reasons from him and then come back and seek solutions.”

It did not take long for him to come to me again. This time round, he was in a much better mood. He said, “Master, after talking to you the other day, I went to have a long talk with my son. Our conversation stretched through the night. I found out that he was not lazing around at home doing nothing. He has a new career plan and hence decided to quit his job. He now works from home. Though he is busier with work he is happier than ever before. After knowing his ideas and plans, my wife and I were relieved. We have misunderstood him!”

Many parents, after seeing their children choosing to stay at home instead will think that they have no ambition in life. But this is not the case. Times are changing and “working from home” is the work style of many young people today. It is a new way of working. Do not jump to conclusion and always communicate with them and help them find a solution together. Lastly, I wish there will be good communication between all parents and their children.

#ParentChildRelationship, #StayAtHome, #NewStyleOfThinking, #Communication


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  1. 感恩师父慈悲的分享:亲子之间相处不应该以教育的核心不只是传授知识,而是培养良好的习惯、学会做人!习惯是一个人存放在神经系统的资本,一个人养成好的习惯,一辈子都用不完它的利息;
    养成一种坏习惯,一辈子都偿还不清它的债务。
    孩子的问题都在父母身上。父母像树根,孩子像树上的枝叶。树根不动,再怎么摇晃树叶也没用!
    辣椒结籽其籽必辣,
    酸梨结籽其籽必酸。
    孩子就是父母的影子。
    父母做好了,孩子就好了。
    大家认同吗?
    感恩您!我们最最最尊贵的慈母恩师!祝福您永远永远幸福快乐开心每一天!

  2. 嗯,没错!俺小弟是IT男,就是整天“宅”在家里的那种,每个星期出去一趟公司开会……我觉得这种工作很好,同时方便照应家里的一些事情。还有俺儿子也是“宅”男,一有空就在家里对着电脑玩游戏,幸好现在大学开学了!感恩师父!

  3. 师父师母早安吉祥???感恩师父慈悲分享???弟子过去也是为了孩子放弃工作发展的机会,改为在家办公。如今孩子们长大成年,我可以追求自己的梦了!和孩子们的关系也很好!感恩师父???

  4. 是哦,时代不同了,随着电脑、网络技术的发展,很多在家就能做工作了。。作家长的要与时俱进,多和孩子沟通,理解孩子,就少了相互间的摩擦和冲突,增进彼此间的亲情。。感恩师父!

  5. 师父早安~还真有一位女儿好宅好宅,从小就是这样子出不了远门,出门两小时內就的回家。她的理由是外面人太多,天气热也很吵杂!家里最好了有吃的丶安静丶舒服丶最安全?

  6. 感恩师父指点,时代不同了,孩子们也在与时俱进,有自己的想法,做自己的事,多与他们沟通,支持鼓励胜过猜疑担心.

  7. 我的孩子就宅在家里,她的工作是设计,自己接的私单和公司工作(她的总公司在北京,工作却在南方城市,所以平时不用出门) ,都需要在电脑上完成,所以她很少出门,我就说她要出去玩玩,她说:出门很花钱的O(∩_∩)O。除非客户需要她到客户公司帮忙, 周末帮美女拍照或者有朋友请吃饭,她才出门,一切随她了,以后要鼓励她多出去旅游O(∩_∩)O祝福所有的孩子们事业更加有成,多赚钱,可以到处旅游O(∩_∩)O

  8. 感恩师父!时代在变,现在很多年轻人的工作型態就是「在家工作」是一種新型態的工作方式。就算真的很擔心孩子,也別什麼都不問就自己亂猜,可以好好和他們溝通,並一起找到解決方法。顶礼感恩师父!???

  9. 科技兩刃劍;
    離群索居、身心難兩衡;
    培養健全的人格,活化生命價值,健康快樂過生活!

  10. 感恩师父分享。是呀,时代不同了,在家工作的也越来越多了。但是,还是要注意,人类是群居动物,大多数人是需要交流的,还是要时不时地下楼接接地气、人气,活动活动四肢。

  11. 师父好!感恩师父慈悲开示!是呀时代变了,在家电脑上就可以完成工作了。感恩师父!??????☕????

  12. 感恩师父慈悲教化。父母与子女之间最好的关系,就是经常沟通,彼此尊重平等对待,这样孩子们才会敞开心扉,遇到问题时才能与父母商量,学会接受学会理解,才能让亲子之间其乐融融,家庭和睦幸福美满。

  13. 科技创新改变工作生活方式!现代人也可以根据自身工作方式!???感恩师父分享!

  14. 感恩师父分享!孩子整天宅在家里是很令人头疼的事情,我的女儿十四岁正值青春叛逆期,去年试过连续十天都呆在家里,吃了睡,睡了吃,不去学校读书,把我气的七窍生烟,我平时血压超低都不超过五十,那段时间把我气得血压都飙到140了,后来我忍住即将爆发的火山,找她深谈,我告诉她我的忍耐快到极限了,身为一名学生天天都不愿意去读书算怎么回事,她也说了原因,也向我保证以后不会了,现在想想不管发生什么事都要给孩子一个沉淀的时间,时间可以改变和解决一切,我也非常感恩上师,让我得到佛法的滋润把我以前的爆脾气一点点的磨掉了,现在爱人和孩子都说我好像换了一个人一样。

  15. 感恩师父分享!现在的孩子在家里也能工作!时代不同了,科学发展得快,所以说我们应该理解孩子们!感恩叩拜恩师!

  16. 感恩师父慈悲分享!我弟弟就是没事爱在家宅着的宅男,然后也很少跟家人沟通。都32岁了,还天天打游戏。该上班的上班。回家就是游戏睡觉。不知道啥时候能好。

  17. 师父好!我家孩子在家呆不住,刚刚和我外甥合伙开健身工作室。每天都要到工作室去上班!目前会员少,有压力!

  18. 师父,您好!现在我女儿在家读书了。我的女儿很有毅力啊!如果我学到她的这种精神去修炼师父的菩提功,就好了。我也努力向她学习。谢谢师父上传分享!感恩师父!

  19. 正常刷卡上班的不能理解工作与生活在一起“宅”家的,“宅”家的不能理解刷卡上班的,

    其实不见得一些“宅”家的人,就没有沟通的能力,外交能力,有时候反倒这种方式会使部分人更加快乐,自在,甚至还增加了工作效率

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