【禪師問答系列】—父母催婚怎麼辦? …

【禪師問答系列】—父母催婚怎麼辦?
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問:
「我的年齡快三十了,爸爸媽媽總催著我早些結婚,完成我的婚姻大事,但是我覺得一個人感覺挺好的,因為這件事,我與家人的關係變得相當緊張,他們痛苦,我的壓力也很大,不知道該怎麼辦?」
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禪師答:
爸媽讓你早點完成婚姻大事,你可以告訴他們:「還沒找到合適的對象。」但是如果有勉強合適的人選,就結婚吧。
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因為,佛法要帶給人們的真正的利益是『讓眾生離苦得樂』。
不該結婚的人如果結了婚,光天天打架也就飽了,很難幸福的。
所以,如果你認為自己一個人也很好,就這樣過日子也是行的。
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但是,我要提醒青年的朋友們,學習『把握住幸福』! 當幸福來敲門的時候,該結婚就結婚吧。
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「婚姻」啊,除了相愛和生孩子外,其實就是生活的「伴侶」。所以有很多人會把自己的對方稱為『老伴兒』。老伴兒,就是個伴兒,就是生活的伴侶,愛情則是其次。過去很多的老爺爺、老奶奶,沒談過戀愛就結婚,最後還能相伴。
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請記得,「伴侶」就是「生活的伴侶」。
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提醒年輕同修們,從長計議、從長思考。
最後,我給大家一個答案:「能結婚就結了吧。」
這樣你爸媽的問題解決了,自己的問題也解決了,把你的老來無伴的孤獨感,提前解決了。
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#禪師妙問妙答、#湊合的幸福、#生活的伴侶rnrnMeditation Master’s Q&A Series’” — How to handle parental stress to get married?
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Question:
“I’m close to 30, and my parents have repeatedly urged me to get married and settle down. In reality, I’m contented being single, but this difference in perspective has caused a rift between me and my family, resulting in general anxiety for all. I feel the immense pressure, and do not know how to handle it.
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Master’s response:
When your parent urge you to settle down and get married, you can allay their concerns by explaining, “I’ve yet come across a suitable life-time partner.” In addition, you could reassure them that you would definitely consider settling down if a suitable partner comes along.
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The Dharma offers a good reference in this instance. We are aware its essence is to liberate sentient beings from sufferings. Applying it to life-long happiness, we can understand that some personalities clash and are not suitable for marriage. These people would invariably encounter bitter disputes with their partners for the rest of their lives should they proceed with marriage. In this way, they would never be happy. For these people, remaining single could be a wiser choice.
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Nonetheless, I would like to encourage our young friends to learn to seize the happiness, especially when the right opportunity and partner comes along, and get married!
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Marriage is more than just falling head over heels in love and then have children. It is about genuine companionship, and that is the reason why couples call their spouses, “my better half”, or “my partner”. This helps explain why many arranged marriages in the past could thrive despite the couples not having met or fallen in love before tying the knot.
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In summary, please remember that your spouse is your life-long companion.
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Last but not least, may I also encourage our young friends to consider marriage with a deeper and longer perspective, and contemplate marriage with a suitable life-long companion. Not only will your parents’ concerns be resolved, you will also have a fulfilling companionship that ensures you do not get lonely as you grow older.
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# Master’s Q&A、 # Arranged marriage、 # Life-long partner


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壓力是動力 . 孩子們,有壓力不怕,其實…

壓力是動力
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孩子們,有壓力不怕,其實它也是動力!
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Pressure is the driving force
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Children, be fearless in the face of pressure as it is also a kind of motivation!rnrn壓力是動力
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孩子們,有壓力不怕,其實它也是動力!
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Pressure is the driving force
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Children, be fearless in the face of pressure as it is also a kind of motivation!


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愛無條件 . . 父母對孩子的「愛」,是…

愛無條件
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父母對孩子的「愛」,是世間沒有任何人可以代替的,無論是金錢還是權利,永遠都代替不了,因為父母對孩子的「愛」非常單純,沒有添加任何「目的」與「利益」,只希望兒女們能健康平安長大。
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所以我們更應該敬愛父母親,為了讓他們更好,有一個很好的方法,就是請「佛菩薩」將吉祥、將佛光、長壽、健康,送給生養我們,最愛我們,大慈大悲的父母親。
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其實,父母就是我們此生的佛菩薩,兒女們有任何需求,父母都是有求必應的。你可有發現,父母在外處世待人,可以是一個兇悍的人,可以是一個不講道理的人,或者根本是一個粗魯的人,但是當他面對孩子的時候,溫柔慈愛的模樣,他就是孩子慈悲的佛,就是你的活菩薩。
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因為他對兒女的愛,就是愛得傻傻的,沒有任何理由與條件,這就是父母啊,為了感念這份情,我們在面對父母的時候應該要「心懷感恩」。
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—節錄自2017年1月21日- 韓國首爾法會FB直播
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#親情無價、#心懷感恩、#愛無條件
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Unconditional Love
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Nothing in this world can substitute a parents’ love for their children – not even money or power. A parent’s love is extremely pure, as it comes without any agenda or conditions attached to it. Their only wish is for us to grow up healthy and safe, which is why we should always treat our parents with love and respect. A very effective way to help improve our parents lives is for us to ask Buddha to bless them with good fortune, longevity and good health. Always remember that our beloved parents not only gave us life, but also their unconditional love, infinite compassion and mercy.
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Our parents are like the Buddha in our lives. Regardless of what needs or wishes we have, our parents are always there to fulfill them. Have you noticed how people who are typically unruly or unreasonable outside their homes, can turn into the gentlest and most loving of parents in front of their children? They are the epitome of the most compassionate Buddha to their children, just like how our parents are to us.
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All parents love their children without condition and reason. To honor this deep love, we must face our parents with a heart full of gratitude.
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— Excerpt from January 21, 2017 – Facebook live-stream from Seoul
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#priceless family relations #gratitude #unconditional lovernrnUnconditional Love
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Nothing in this world can substitute a parents’ love for their children – not even money or power. A parent’s love is extremely pure, as it comes without any agenda or conditions attached to it. Their only wish is for us to grow up healthy and safe, which is why we should always treat our parents with love and respect. A very effective way to help improve our parents lives is for us to ask Buddha to bless them with good fortune, longevity and good health. Always remember that our beloved parents not only gave us life, but also their unconditional love, infinite compassion and mercy.
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Our parents are like the Buddha in our lives. Regardless of what needs or wishes we have, our parents are always there to fulfill them. Have you noticed how people who are typically unruly or unreasonable outside their homes, can turn into the gentlest and most loving of parents in front of their children? They are the epitome of the most compassionate Buddha to their children, just like how our parents are to us.
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All parents love their children without condition and reason. To honor this deep love, we must face our parents with a heart full of gratitude.
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— Excerpt from January 21, 2017 – Facebook live-stream from Seoul
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#priceless family relations #gratitude #unconditional love


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【金菩提禪語】 . 好好修行,如法修行,…

【金菩提禪語】
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好好修行,如法修行,是最大的供養。
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#金菩提禪語、 #好好修行、 #供養
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[ Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism ] .
Cultivate oneself diligently in adherence with the Dharma is the best offerings.
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#MasterJinBodhiAphorism, #cultivatediligently, #offeringsrnrn【 Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism】
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Cultivate diligently and follow closely to the dharma teaching is the greatest of all offerings.
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#Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism, #cultivate diligently, #offerings
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【金菩提禪語】
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好好修行,如法修行,是最大的供養。
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#金菩提禪語、 #好好修行、 #供養


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修出精彩人生 #月光 . 「佛法」祂是修…

修出精彩人生

#月光
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「佛法」祂是修出來的。
不修,我們的命運還是過去的命運,這天生的命運無法改變。
只有修行、改變自己的內心,你的人生才能改變,才能真正變得精彩!
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#週六共修討論、#金菩提禪語、#週六網路共修
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Cultivate a wonderful life!
#Moonlight
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The cultivation of Buddha dharma is through the practice of meditation.
If we do not practice, our fate remains the same.
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Only through cultivation and changing our mindset, will we be able to change our life into something truly wonderful.
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#Saturday Global Group Practice discussion, #Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism, #Online Global Group Practice on Saturdayrnrn修出精彩人生

#月光
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「佛法」祂是修出來的。
不修,我們的命運還是過去的命運,這天生的命運無法改變。
只有修行、改變自己的內心,你的人生才能改變,才能真正變得精彩!
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#週六共修討論、#金菩提禪語、#週六網路共修
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Cultivate a wonderful life!
#Moonlight
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The cultivation of Buddha dharma is through the practice of meditation.
If we do not practice, our fate remains the same.
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Only through cultivation and changing our mindset, will we be able to change our life into something truly wonderful.
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#Saturday Global Group Practice discussion, #Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism, #Online Global Group Practice on Saturday


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【科學新知面面觀】 #植物也是眾生? ….

【科學新知面面觀】
#植物也是眾生?
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植物是「眾生」?
科學家研究出植物,它能感知光、味、觸、水,和更多超出我們人類能感應的。它會學習、有記憶、也會溝通,甚至有跡象擁有人類的一些特徵。
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科學實驗已經證明,如果你站在植物的旁邊,它能看到你身上衣服的顏色,它們雖然沒有眼睛,但全身卻遍佈「光感受器蛋白」(photoreceptor protein), 而人類的「光感受器蛋白」卻只是在眼睛的視網膜後面。植物沒有腦,但卻能通過它體內的細胞 「電行」 和「生化物」傳遞訊息。(電行,生化物這兩個名詞,和人的大腦神經細胞neuron 相同),這和人類大腦的運作模式相同。
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加拿大人類學家Narby曾說:植物雖是沒有腦但卻能執行腦的功用。Neuron (神經細胞/元)是希臘文,它代表植物纖維,植物的神經細胞是在切開的植物裡面。
在他過去30多年的研究,一個重大的發現,自然界的生物擁有大智慧。海豚和其他一些動物能在鏡子裡認出自己,科學根據只要能在鏡子裡認出自己就是聰明的。鴿子對畫的記憶比學院裡的學生好,羊對人類臉孔的記憶比人更強。蜜蜂是無脊椎昆蟲,大腦像一棵細砂糖這麼大,但卻能理解抽象的概念,並能一致的處理和感知事物的不同性。
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一個更有趣的發現,有一種叫「粘菌」(黴)slime moulds 的生物,在每一個實驗中,已經證實了它是沒腦的。它是一種粘液滴,能長到像一隻手這麼大,將會是一種有智慧的解陣方法,因為它們的生長方式,像是在構建智慧管網路,迅速的蔓延而無處不鑽。仿生研究者正在研究,如何利用粘菌的迅速蔓延方法,來幫助人類解決交通、水管通道,和溝渠等問題。
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影片連結:

#植物的生命特徵、#植物也是眾生、#科學研究
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Scientific Facts
#Are plants sentient beings?
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Scientific studies have shown that plants are able to sense light, smell, touch, water and have many other attributes that are beyond the human senses. They have the capability to learn, remember, communicate, and there are even signs that they possess some human characteristics.
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Scientific research has proven that plants can see the color of your clothes when you stand next to them. Although they do not have eyes, photoreceptor protein can be found all over their bodies. This photoreceptor protein is only found in the back of the retina for humans. Plants may not have brains, but they can transmit messages using electrical and chemical signals in their cells, similar to how the neurons work in the human brain.
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Canadian anthropologist Jeremy Narby once said that plants may not possess brains, but they do have brain functions. The word ‘neuron’ originates from the Greek term for vegetable fiber. Research over the past 30 years have shown that nature possess great intelligence. Dolphins and some other animals are able to recognize themselves in the mirror, which is a scientific measure of intelligence. Pigeons have better memories than art students when it comes to paintings. Sheep remember human faces better than humans themselves. Bees may be invertebrates with brains the size of a grain of sugar, but they understand the concept of abstractness, and are able to consistently sense and react to things of different nature.
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This is something even more interesting: A brainless organism known as slime mold perfectly solve mazes, another measure of intelligence. It is slimy, grows to the size of a human hand and is so good at setting up intelligent tubing networks that researchers are currently studying how to make use of it to help mankind solve traffic problems and pipeline architecture.
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#plant’s vital signs #plants are sentient beings too #scientific research


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【金菩提禪語】 佛和魔都在自心裡頭, 所…

【金菩提禪語】

佛和魔都在自心裡頭,
所以我心裡不想了,
一切都自然消失。

#金菩提禪語、#心是根源、#心無旁鶩
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【 Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism】
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Buddha and demons reside deep within our subconscious mind.
Hence, as long as we ignore them, these will naturally fade into nothingness.
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#Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism, #subconscious mind, #nothingnessrnrn【金菩提禪語】

佛和魔都在自心裡頭,
所以我心裡不想了,
一切都自然消失。

#金菩提禪語、#心是根源、#心無旁鶩
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【 Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism】
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Buddha and demons reside deep within our subconscious mind.
Hence, as long as we ignore them, these will naturally fade into nothingness.
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#Grandmaster JinBodhi’s Aphorism, #subconscious mind, #nothingness


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參月 . 「天天大禮拜,智慧身端莊。」 …

參月
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「天天大禮拜,智慧身端莊。」
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對於佛教徒和正在學佛的人來說,大禮拜是禮佛的最恭敬禮儀。除了宗教禮儀之外,大禮拜對平常人有哪些利益呢?就我自己的修行經驗而言,大禮拜有很多好處:有利於身體健康;有利於精神情緒健康和心性的提升;更深一層還可以溝通神佛慈悲的能量,獲得護祐加持,甚至產生一些超能力。
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【喇嘛治病的故事】
在藏密修行當中,有一個方法是繞寺禮拜修行。
因此,在大昭寺外,有一條圓形的街圍繞著寺廟,有人叫它八廓街、八角街或八廊街。在這條禮拜的街道上,有個天天禮拜的喇嘛,他的額頭鼓起來一塊肌肉,像貼了半個鴨蛋——是磕頭磕出來的。

有一天,一位懷抱昏迷孩子的婦女,焦急地到處求救,婦女拽住一個過路的喇嘛:「師父,求求你幫幫這個孩子。」喇嘛摸摸孩子的頭:「我加持過了,祝福過了。」但是,孩子仍然昏迷著。
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我指一指那位將頭磕出一個大包的喇嘛,告訴那位婦女:「找他去吧。」

婦女攔下那位大禮拜的喇嘛:「求求你,師父!我的孩子昏迷不醒好幾天了,醫生治不了,也找不出毛病來,請您幫著治一治吧!」

喇嘛轉過頭對我說:「我不會治病呢,您讓她找我幹嘛?」
我說:「我看到佛說你會治病。你把手放在孩子頭上試看看。」
他照著我的話把手放上去了。
「那我接下來又怎麼辦啊?」喇嘛擔心的問

我說:「你在禮拜的時候看到佛的光了嗎?」
他說:「看到了啊。」
我說:「好啊,那就把佛的光送給孩子就好了。」
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他把手放在孩子頭上!一會兒,孩子就睜開眼睛「哇」地哭了。
這孩子好多天沒睜眼,也沒聲音了,現在竟能哭出聲音來,媽媽高興得不會笑只會哭了。 這事兒一傳開,喇嘛再也不能磕頭禮拜了,因為只要他一露面,整村的人就「呼」地撲上去找他治病。
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因為這個喇嘛是個實修的人,擁有很強的能量,只是不ˇ懂利用而已。他腦子不聰明,讀書不行,學經也不行,做法事更不會,只能磕頭。他師父告訴他:磕頭就能開智慧,下輩子就聰明了。為了修來世變聰明,他每天在那兒磕呀磕,也數不清一天磕多少個。走一步,磕一個頭,站起來劃一道,再往前磕,絕不會作假,絕不會偷懶,長期的修行,讓他積累了很強的能量。
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所以哪怕是愚鈍的人,只要能堅持誠心禮拜,也一樣會有很好的效果。我們先不要追求多麼高的成就,先從提升我們的心性及改善健康開始做起,在清靜修行之中,自然能由內而外散發祥和之氣。內心能清淨就不糊塗,看問題、想問題也能夠更宏觀。有了更大的視野,人生的目標、方向也就清楚了,這就克服了愚癡,少犯錯誤。
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#參月、#台曆、#拜出來的美好人生、#大禮拜、#喇嘛治病rnrnMarch
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【Practice Prostration daily for wisdom and a dignified appearance】
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To buddhists and dharma practitioners, prostration is the most respectable ritual to the Buddha. Besides being a religious rite, what benefits does prostration bring to ordinary people? Based on my own experience in meditation, prostration brings many benefits including improvement in physical, mental and emotional health. The more advanced practitioners can even access the compassionate energy of the Buddha and Heavenly beings, receive their blessings and protection, and may even develop special Dharma power.
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“The story of healing by a lama”
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Enclosing the Jokhang Temple in Lhasa, Tibet, is a street named Bakuo Street. In Tibetan Buddhism, prostrating in circumambulation of a temple is a form of meditation practice. Along this street of prostration, there was a lama who prostrated daily. His forehead had a bump, the size of half an egg- probably due to prolonged period of prostration and kowtows (knocking the forehead on the ground).
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One day, a woman carrying a child who was unconscious came to seek assistance. She stopped a lama who passed by and pleaded, “Teacher, please help him. ” The lama shook his head, “I am unable to help.” He stroked the child’s head and said, “I have blessed and wished him well.” However, the child remained unconscious.
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I pointed to the lama who was prostrating and told the woman, “Seek his help”. She stopped the lama who was prostrating and said, “I plead to you, teacher! My child had been unconscious for several days and doctors could not cure nor find the cause, please help to heal him.”
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The lama replied, “I don’t know healing, why do you come to me?” I said, “I saw Buddha and Buddha said you are able to heal. Place your hands on the child’s head and try.” So the lama did as told. “What do I do next? ” he asked. “Have you seen the Buddha’s light during prostration?” I asked and he replied yes. I told him, “Send the Buddha’s light to the child.”
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The lama placed his hand on the child, and after a while, the child miraculously opened his eyes and started crying. The child had been unconscious and silent for several days, but now he was able to open his eyes and cry. The mother was overjoyed with tears. Ever since this incident, the lama could no longer prostrate at the same place. Whenever he appears, he would attract a huge crowd asking for healing.
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Actually, this lama was a diligent meditation practitioner. Though he had acquired strong energy, he did not know how to make use of it. He was actually not an intelligent person, and also did not do well in his academic and Buddhism studies. Nor was he competent in the Buddhism rituals except prostration. His master had told him, “prostration helps to develop your wisdom, and you would be wiser in the next life. ” In order to be a more intelligent person in his next life, the lama prostrated every day and kow-towed repeatedly. He lost count of the number of times he had prostrated and kow-towed. He would prostrate with every step, rise and continue with the next step of prostration. He would not skip any step, nor take a break till he completed the round. Over a long period of continued practice, he accumulated very strong energy.
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So even for an ordinary person who is not intelligent at all, as long as he practices prostration diligently and sincerely, he will attain excellent results. We should refrain from high expectations initially, but instead begin with the objective of improving mental and physical health. Meditating in purity and calmness, our body will emanate auspicious energy and our mind will be clear and not confused. We will be able to view problems with broader perspective. With a broader mind, we will attain a clear purpose in life and direction. This will help us overcome ignorance and reduce mistakes in life.
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修行中的飲食 . 前陣子我在首爾給同修們…

修行中的飲食
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前陣子我在首爾給同修們上課的時候,講了幾個關於修行中該注意哪些飲食的重點提示,有熱心的網友做成了小短片,大家一起來看看!
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修行中的飲食方式,很多也適用於一般人的日常生活三餐飲食準則,想要吃的健康、活的長壽嗎?就從今天開始養成健康的飲食習慣吧!
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#修行中的飲食、#韓國首爾念佛班
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Diet for Meditation Practice
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Recently, I was in Seoul teaching meditation. I highlighted some points with regards to our diet while meditating. These points lead to a short video created by some enthusiastic netizens. Let’s take a look!
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Diet for meditation practice can also be applied to our daily meals. If you want to enjoy longevity through a healthy diet, then start to develop healthy eating habits today!
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#Diet for Meditation Practice, #Seoul, Korea Chant Class


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