#親子教育、#頌津、#頌翰、#慈悲的引導、#快樂成長、#孩子的未來在於你rnrnYour child’s future lies in your hands
A parent’s love for their children is selfless and pure. The amount of effort and devotion a parent spends on the child is immeasurable. How can we nurture our children so that they can grow up healthily and happily? What can we as parents do so that our children will grow up to be productive members of the society and make positive contributions in future? This is a topic that all parents are most concerned about. Today, I will share a real life story of a family from Singapore for your reference.
【Our son no longer hides from us】
I have two sons. In recent years, due to my busy work schedule, I spent very little time with them. Additionally, doing all sorts of household chores regularly has made me very impatient and anxious and I often vent my frustrations on my children. My husband is especially strict with their studies as well. As a result, our children are very afraid of us.
There was once where my husband returned home late from work. Upon hearing the sound of the door opening, my younger son ran from the living room into the bedroom immediately and used his blanket to cover his body, pretending that he had fallen asleep. At that moment, I felt very alienated from my children. This distance between parent and child gave my husband and I a headache and we were at a loss of what to do.
My husband and I registered for many parenting workshops to learn techniques to help us better bring up our children. However, they were not effective and did little to bridge the distance between us and our children. Our sons continued to score poorly in their exams and often fought with each other, snatching things violently. My husband and I were perplexed over their behavior.
Fortunately, a chance encounter allowed us to hear a lesson taught by Grandmaster JinBodhi titled “Your child’s future lies in your hands”. We were deeply touched by his sharing and decided to change the way we treat our children. We began to pay attention to the manner in which we communicated with our children and used more caring and encouraging words with them. Gradually, we stopped using negative language such as blaming and sincerely apologized for our erroneous behavior in the past. In addition, in front of their faces, we threw away the cane that we used to punish them with. When they saw this, our children were so delighted that they hugged and kissed me. At that moment, my heart was filled with warmth and happiness.
During this period, my husband and I adopted an attitude where we deeply cherished our time spent with our children. We learnt to see things from our children’s perspective and were not bothered by their test results. What mattered most to us was whether they grew up happily and contented.
Even though we spent only 20 minutes coaching our younger son in his studies, he would score 6 or 7 points out of 10, a huge improvement compared to his past results. Once, he even scored full marks!
We also noticed positive changes in our children’s behavior towards us. They no longer hide when we returned home but would rush towards us and happily embraced us. The atmosphere in the family has became more loving and warm.
My husband and I are extremely grateful to Master Jin Bodhi and his wise teachings. By emphasizing on using compassion to bring up our children, our family has become closer, happier and more loving towards each other. Watching our children grow up happily and healthily is our greatest joy and blessing!
(Note: The effect of meditation varies from person to person.)
* Bodhi meditation does not advocate the stopping of medication. Please follow your doctor’s medical advise.
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